Your Weekly Townsend Fix COlumn 18

Alooooha! Man I'm lucky I got a 3 day weekend because I'm nearly going insane with this whole "no sleep" phase of mine. With coaching volleyball over 3 hours a week, games on the weekend, and school, I'm surprised I have energy to even hit the spacebar on this keyboard. I decided, for sure, I know I keep saying I will and I won't, but I've decided that I'm retiring....as a coach. For now that is, I'll probably be some sort of coach when I'm a mom or something. But as of this season, this is it. I haven't had the heart to actually tell my team, I don't want them to know till later on, too many good things are going for them and I'd hate to have it all come to an end. I don't see myself coaching anymore for two important reasons. 1) It's too much stress for me at this time of my life. 2) I don't see myself coaching any other team but this team. As insane as they have made me, I love those girls.

Anyways, another thing that is totally tiring me out is my Townsend outbursts. I swear, that this whole coaching thing has literally dominated so much of my time that I haven't had a chance to see any of Townsend's last couple of events, in fact I don't know if I"ll even make Jessica Simpson. If it were anything else I'd probably bail on it but I along with Monica, the other coach have been trying to teach the girls about commitment to a team. It's gotten to the point where everyone I know is realizing how sad it's making me. They tried to come up with solutions, in fact they were really nice about it. But I don't even know I talk about them. Seems like EVERY little thing reminds me of Ryan. At our City High Concert, Ryan Toby had the same tank top as our Rye at the airshow and I made such a huge deal about it. At lunch this guy named Tony walked by and I almost said "Hi Rye" because he looks like Ryan. I even saw this dude out on the street, he looked like Dom so much that I flipped out in the car. Thursday and Friday I saw a firetruck drive past my school and went crazy...do you see what Townsend Withdrawls cause if they are not properly treated?

Anyways ya, on to the fix. I kinda had two ideas but we'll work onto something else another time. Right now I want to talk about Townsend. I found a post in the board asking a very bold question to if there was "more to Townsend." Of course I couldn't NOT act on it. So I did, I'm not sure what I can say that I haven't already said. I really exaggerate the fact that they are good people because they are. I'm not JUST saying that, if I were, I would be insincere, and frankly, insincere people bother me the most. The fix won't be about that, I just felt I needed to slightly touch on the subject. So what's the fix about? Townsend yes, but Townsend...EXPLODING. I"m talking sparks flying, pieces all over the place, and fire. Well no, but them being HOTT liike fire. I'm talking about them just beoming big. This column, will be about the two questions or comments that are brought up the most lately. 1) How do you get hooked up? 2) So do you think Townsend is going to lose their heads? (Refering to their ego, not literally.) I'll save number 2 for last since that seems to me like it's the most important. 1) I'm not sure how ANYONE gets hooked up. I think it's just one of those, right place, right time things. Beats me. I know that I'm at level ZERO of a hook up...would you like to see my family hook ups?...

1) Dad----->
Occupation: Head Pharmacist @ Kaiser
Hook Up: Antibiotics when I get sick...and that prozac whenever I get quirky.

2) Mom----->
Occupation: San Francisco Archdiocese office worker
Hook Up: Holy Cards, Rosaries, and prayers...of faith and hope that i don't screw up

3) Melanie---->
Occupation: 12 year old 7th grader at my old school, St. Brigid
Hook Up: a bunch of her friends asking me who my boyfriend is...sadly enough...i don't have an answer.

4) Grammy Bear---->
Occupation: Full time grandmother on my mom's side.
Hook Up: Only the best! I swear she spoils me with food...if I lived with her I'd probably be one massive teenager.

5) Lola (Grandmother)---->
Occupation: Full time grandmother on my dad's side
Hook Up: Philipino food! Plus she's always around when I come home from school and she's funny as heck.

6) Auntie Judy (Mom's side)---->
Occupation: Full time mom to two kids
Hook Up: That "out" i need whenever mom and I have a fight

7) Auntie Gail (Mom's side)----->
Occupation: Bank of America offices
Hook Up: I wish I could say Money but I get better...she's the eldest of the 3 sisters so whenever my mom seems to be unfair Auntie G is the voice of reason.

8) Auntie Perlita (Dad's side)----->
Occupation: Lawyer's office
Hook Up: Ummmm...legal advice? haha she's always supporting school fundraisers that Mel and I have. She's cool because I talk about Townsend with her all the time, I've probably told the same story five times and she still finds it interesting...I think that's cool.

9) Uncle Isgr (Dad's Side)---->
Occupation: Real Estate Office
Hook Up: He's got a cool sense of taste in music and style. It's pretty cool when he talks about going clubbing and then asks to borrow my Eminem CD or NSync CD to burn a copy of.

Yea...REAL huge hook ups right there...so no Kristen has ZERO hook ups in the family..hope that answers some of your questions. Ok onto the more important bit of it. I have been asked on my opinion on where the guys heads are going to go once they officially hit superstardom. Want the full and honest truth? (Of course you do, that's why you're reading this column.) Their heads are going no where. You may think I'm biased and well, I'm not. If I thought that Matt Yoakum (OMG Matt Yoakum), Todd Dolci, Nick & Dom Restani and Rye Torres were going to go on an ego trip for a while, well I wouldn't be here would I? In fact Holly wouldn't be here, Bob & Wendy wouldn't be here, Joy wouldn't be here, Megan wouldn't be here, Courtney wouldn't be here, Amber wouldn't be here, Amy wouldn't be here, and Tamara wouldn't be here huh? The fact is, that we were here because of who they were people first not before they were performers. Sure I think that they are the five hottest guys walking the face of the planet but I'm not COMPLETELY superficial into believing that they just stand there and look nice. I supported them before I realized that they were a music group. ("They" as in Todd, Rye, and the twins.) Why? Because I was attracted to their personalities. Naturally all of us as human beings, well human beings with good morals at least, want to associate ourselves with the right people. Hopefully none of us make friends for what they can provide us but what we can provide each other in a mutual friendship.

When I first met these guys I knew that I wanted some sort of friendship or relationship with them. They aren't those "hott guys" you see in the mall that throw paper napkin balls and wear their big varsity jackets with a backwards cap and baggy jeans, they're guys that actually respectable in many ways. After meeting them, there was always a new addition to how respectable I percieved them as. For example, I was walking next to Dom and there was a small walkway for room of only one person at a time; he immediatly stopped and said, "After you." Nick opened up the car door for me and helped me into the car. Rye offered me his candy even though there was only maybe 3 to 5 pieces left. Todd has always made it a point to walk up and say hi if I don't see him. Matt will make it a point to be friendly and welcoming, even if he is busy. So many times I have thought, "Man, why aren't more guys like this?" I wish I knew. Sometimes I wonder if the boys are hiding anything from me. You know that mysterious way that guys tend to have? The kind where they absolutely will do everything before you beat it out of them? Yeah, that one. But they're not, before I could even question the idea I realized that they were honest. There was no beating around the bush. I know that Todd will tell me things straight up, he will say what he has to say and that's all there is to it. I know that Dom will make sure words things right but he still says them. I love that about them, I love the way they feel open enough to say what's on their mind. Do you have any idea what issues I have with guys who lie? Let's not go into that...

I guess the point I'm trying to get to is, is that these guys are too good for being hugely conceited guys. If anything they deserve a couple of those "Diva moments" because I don't know how they do it, but they're too good for that too. There will never be a time where they won't do everything in their power to try and talk to fans, take a picture, sign an autograph, or give a hug or shake a hand. They're not like that, I know that they can't all the time because they're on a time crunch and it's not physically possible to make EVERYONE happy but they try. You have no idea how much they try. I remember me, Dom, Rye, and my parents all having this conversation one day about how they try to make everyone happy and how they WANT to make everyone happy. I remember them saying that they WANT to make everyone happy, not that they HAVE to make everyone happy. When someone says, "Man you really go that extra mile," they're refering to the guys. They're just the people to go that extra length to satisfy you. They can't all the time, it's like saying you can go to every single Townsend event you can, you can't, sure there are a couple people who can, they're lucky, but the rest of us TRY. The point is the guys try and the day they don't is the day you can say they've lost their heads, and that day will never come.

With that said I will be back next week for another column...if I'm not...send out a search party!!!

Stay safe & Stay you.
Kristen
xoxo

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