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Wednesday, 17 March 2004


Topic: Vic Jameson

I had to read some (mostly powerful) poetry written by a colleague today, and this one line sticks in my head, and won't go away.

"I don't belong to these grey walls"

Creepy Lesbo has come up against the obstacle of friend's objections to her blog, and is inviting ideas about what to do. I say, up sticks, shut the blog down, start a new one - new links, new pseudonyms, new everything. We'll all find it eventually, Creepy. You don't belong to blogspot, you don't belong to your readers, and you don't need to be held hostage to someone else's sense of propriety.

I dunno, I just can't imagine William Burroughs shooting his wife in the face, and his mother saying "you're not going to put that in your damn blog book".

Creepy's writing is honest, and it's good because it's excoriatingly honest. Painfully, brutally honest. She reminds me of Dickens in a weird way, because I hang on waiting for the next instalment to slice up another part of lesbian life, lance another pompous fart's asinine self-serving behaviour, dissect it and boil it in acid flavoured blog-jelly for me to read about.
Nobody could sit and knowingly be a topic for unforgiving focus like that. So I say move it. If she's censoring herself, she'd be censoring more than just a few words. She'd be censoring the writing, the unburdening, and the talent that keeps improving every time she publishes another instalment.

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Updated: Wednesday, 17 March 2004 4:29 PM GMT
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Wednesday, 17 March 2004 - 6:41 PM GMT

Name: Niki
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I ran across this same sort of situation when the following happened:

- current flame's brother read the blog
- ex boyfriend read comments about what I thought of him
- different ex boyfriend's brother (who I was still friends with) read about what his brother did to me, couldn't believe that was his brother & subseuently doesn't talk to me anymore
- friend of guy who dicked me over found some incriminating info about her & said guy, now they're even more pissed than they were before

My advice: if it's really a problem, yeah, switch sites. But don't stop writing. What I did was go through every damn entry & switch names to initials, which can be awfully confusing for the reader, but no one can google their names & come up with nasty shit (or tingly feelings) I've said about them.

But don't stop writing. :)

***in loving memory of Franklin***

Wednesday, 17 March 2004 - 6:46 PM GMT

Name: Gary
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I couldn't agree more - I've been reading Creepy since I took an interest in blogs, and it's obvious that the writing is a big thing to her. If I were in the same situation, I'd start again.

Wednesday, 17 March 2004 - 11:28 PM GMT

Name: Sarah
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Or switch sites, change names and put some meta code in the page headers to stop the pages being indexed by search engines, i.e.


although I think the code varies slightly for Google.

It's a toughie, but I do hope that Creepy will continue to blog.

*Replacing "[" and "]" with "<" and ">"

Thursday, 18 March 2004 - 12:35 PM GMT

Name: cacoa

omygod, what she said about knowing it was a risk, that the scene was too small, is why I'm so damn paranoid about my blog being found.

Although I censor personal references, (much less now since i hid the archives and put anti google code in) I'm pretty sure if anyone knew me read it, they'd recognise me straightaway. Considering it contains some very secretive personal stuff, all hell would break loose. I'm too private as it is, and it would be bad enough to have those i know read me, but for my secrets to be out?! @#%$!. I'd totally loose my family, they would just be so shocked by what they'd find. I've seen it happen to others. So I'm not exaggerating.

I did almost get found by a friend's boyfriend, and had to move the site, that was scary enough.


Thursday, 18 March 2004 - 1:13 PM GMT

Name: Creepy Lesbo
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I think that's what worries me. That they'll find me eventually. That it could be a blogger who I speak to every day who grassed me up. I was getting too big anyway. It was bound to happen. I'm just not sure what I want to do as an alternative now.
I could do a members only by invite, no archives yahoogroup. I could start up elsewhere. But the worry is it will happen again, no matter how careful I am just because London and the scene specifically is too small. That I'm too honest, that I give too much away. But I do like writing.
I wanted to give Creepy Lesbo a final ending. I wanted to tie up things with BigSmile (trying to arrange to do that tonight) and tell you all the outcome of the CG meeting yesterday. But now I don't want to give her and her cronies the information. I don't want her to know what did or didn't happen. So I either blog that somewhere else and give people the address or I don't and close it all and be done with it. End of. Close shop. Move along, nothing to see here kind of thing.
I should cut it off. Make my life less complicated for a while.
But... this is me. I want to write it. I want to tell you. I want to document it for myself. CG has been cutting through the information with a knife and being very astute about everything. Protective and supportive of me and what I write. CG has suspicions that EW is playing games. DCG agrees. After a text last night I wonder too. Livejournal can be searched though can't it, if you are a member. Suggestions of other hosters would be welcomed. And the protection things they give.

Thursday, 18 March 2004 - 2:25 PM GMT

Name: Francesca
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Hello Creepy. I do not think you should move your blog, because after all, it is your blog, your personal writing, and no one can really figure what goes on in your mind.

Having said that... Livejournal is searchable, yes, to the extent that you can see whatever someone puts on their userinfo page. But it does have the advantage of making posts friends-only - as long as they are members of LJ.

If you want to set one up, I have a couple of spare codes, so email me at the addy above.

Sorry to hear that some people are too insecure to handle someone else's truth. Always sad when that happens :(

Thursday, 18 March 2004 - 4:46 PM GMT

Name: Laura

Hang on a sec, don't third parties who did not know about a blog, and their life details in a blog have a legitimate complaint when they discover their place in them ? Not just mundane details of 'went to pub last night', but intimate details of their life, past and present, and a level of detail that makes you recognisable to those who know you if they come across the blog.

If bloggers worry about being discovered and uncovered, what about the people they write about, they get to worry about 'what will be written about me tomorrow ? and who is going to read it ?'. Bloggers have the control, the blogged don't.

Thursday, 18 March 2004 - 6:19 PM GMT

Name: sarah
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Creepy, you know what you want to do - I think you should keep going, because what you do write is heart-wrenching, edge-of-the-seat stuff. And you're good at it.

As for LJ, I've had a free-account for years, as most of my Real Life (tm) friends are there. ("I had a perfectlly normally functioning social group until they all got Livejournals") It works well if you don't put any "interests" in, and keep it all friends-only. Invent new pseudonyms, list yourself as being in Canada, etc. etc. You also need to be able to ignore the legion of 13 year olds saying "hi i added you as a frined now you must add me thankyou please"

..but your readers have to have a lj too. Play with it, see what you think, as for searching, from my own stalking it's not *that* easy unless to track someone down unless they've stuck something highly identifiable down in their interests.

not that I ever used Livejournal to stalk an ex. honest. *guilty*

Thursday, 18 March 2004 - 6:28 PM GMT

Name: Sarah
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I was going to suggest the same thing after having to set up a LJ account last night in order to access a friend's 'other' blog. It's a great idea. :)

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