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A Note To Bereaved Mommies and Daddies

Forever In Our Heart's <HEADER></HEADER>

Hi my name is Nicole Dougherty and my husband's name is Tim. We have been married for almost 4 year's now and we have had 4 children Timmy who is 3 1/2, Jessa who just turned 2 and our twin son's Gunnar and River who were born asleep on April 27th of this year.

It has been very rough for us to try and get used to the idea that our babies are never coming home (to be honest I don't think I ever will). It hasn't been very long since they passed away but we know that one day we will be with them again in Heaven..

Alot of people don't realize what we are all going through and they just expect us to put it all behind us and never talk about it to anyone. You shouldn't have to feel like you can't talk about your child. Some people act like it is a sin to talk about our children and it isn't. When ever you need/want talk about your child you should be able to and not be made to feel like it is wrong, because it isn't. It help's to be able to share our memories and feeling's with other's.It isnt a wrong and you shouldn't have to put your memories away just because someone think's that it isn't right for you to be talking, shareing your thought's and memorie's or that you should not still be greiving for your child. Don't ever let anyone tell you that it is time for you to stop greiving for your child.

It is none of their business unless someone has gone through what we have then they have no idea what it is like to feel the feeling's that we are feeling. It doesn't matter if it has been 1 month or 30 year's since you lost your child they were still your child and no one has the right to tell you how to feel or when you should stop greiving or that you should forget about your child. Because you will alway's greive for your child. Until that person has walked a mile in our shoe's they have no idea of what it is like and I pray that they never have too.

I have been told by some people that I should stop greiving for my son's because it has been long enough since they passed on. I will remember everything that happened and all of the joy that they brought to my life. I have also been told "Well it was probably for the best". My qustion to that comment has alway's been "It was probably best for whom"? What kind of comment is that to say to some one that has lost a child. They say it because they are IGNORANT and have no idea what they are talking just tell them to shut up!!

My children are my life and I cherish every moment that I have with them, the memories of Gunnar and River are forever in my heart and I will cherish them till the end..

Please remember that you are not alone and that if you ever need to talk that we are alway's here and we will listen, everyone need's to talk. We all need to stick together and help one another at any and all time's when someone need's a shoulder to cry on..


Take care of yourselves and eachother..Our prayer's are with you all.

Nicole and Tim

The song you hear playing is the theme song from the movie TITANIC called

"My Heart Will Go On" as sung by Celine Dion.

Every night in my dreams I see you. I feel you,

That is how I know you go on.

Far across the distance and spaces between us

You have come to show you go on.

Near far, wherever you are,

I believe that the heart does go on.

Once more, you open the door

And you're here in my heart,

And my heart will go on and on.

Love can touch us one time and last for a lifetime,

And never let go till we're gone.

Love was when I loved you, one true time I hold to.

In my life we'll always go on.

Near, far, wherever you are,

I believe that the heart does go on.

Once more, you open the door

And you're here in my heart,

And my heart will go on and on.

You're here, there's nothing I fear,

And I know that my heart will go on.

We'll stay forever this way,

You are safe forever this way,

You are safe in my heart,

And my heart will go on and on.

NOTHING from these pages that we have written to our Son's can be taken from

these pages. Some people have asked for us to contribute our Story to their

books, we appreciate the fact that they want us to be in their books, but we are

not comfortable having someone else handleing our story in any manner. Thank

you for your cooperation.

And NONE of the pictures of us or our sons may be copied either.

Gunnar and River Dougherty's Family.