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Fear of being alone in the dark, of sleeping alone, nightmares, night
terrors (especially of pursuit, threat, entrapment)
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Swallowing and gagging sensitivity; repugnance to water on one's face
when bathing or swimming (suffocation feelings)
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Alienation from the body-not at home in own body; failure to heed body
signals or take care of one's body; poor body image; manipulating body size
to avoid sexual attention
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Gastrointestinal problems; gynecological disorders (including spontaneous
vaginal infections); headaches; arthritis or joint pain.
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Wearing a lot of clothing, even in summer; baggy clothes; failure to remove
clothing even when appropriate to do so (while swimming, bathing, sleeping);
extreme requirement for privacy when using bathroom.
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Eating disorders, drug or alcohol abuse (or total abstinence); other
addictions; compulsive behaviors.
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Self-destructiveness; skin carving, self-abuse
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Phobias
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Need to be invisible, perfect, or perfectly bad.
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Suicidal thoughts, attempts, obsession (including passive suicide)
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Depression (sometimes paralyzing); seemingly baseless crying
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Anger issues; inability to recognize, own, or express anger; fear of actual
or imagined rage; constant anger; intense hostility toward entire gender
or ethnic group of the perpetrator.
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Splitting (Depersonalization); going into shock, shutdown, in crisis;
a stressful situation always is a crisis; psychic numbing; physical pain
or numbness associated with a particular memory, emotion (eg:anger), or situation
(eg:sex).
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Rigid control of one's though process; humorlessness or extremes solemnity.
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Childhood hiding, hanging on , cowering in corners (security-seeking
behaviors); adult nervousness over being watched or surprised; feeling watched;
startle response.
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Trust issues; inability to trust (trust is not safe); total trust; trusting
indiscriminately
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High risk taking (daring the fates); inability to take risks
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Boundary issues; control, power, territoriality issues; fear of losing
control; obsessive/compulsive behaviors (attempts to control things that
don't matter, just to control something).
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Guilt, shame; low self-esteem; feeling worthless; high appreciation of
small favors by others.
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Pattern of being a victim (victimizing oneself after being victimized
by others); especially sexually; no sense of own power or right to set limits
or say no; pattern of relationships with much older persons (onset in
adolescence).
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Feeling demand to "produce and be loved"; instinctively knowing and doing
what the other person needs or wants; relationships mean big tradeoffs (love
was taken, not given)
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Abandonment issues
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Blocking gout some period of early years (especially 1-12), or a specific
person or place
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Feeling of carrying an awful secret; urge to tell, fear of its being revealed;
certainty that no one will listen; being generally secretive; feeling "marked"
(scarlet letter)
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Feeling crazy; feeling different; feelings oneself to be unreal and everyone
else to be real; or vice versa; creating fantasy worlds, relationships, or
identities (especially for women: imagining or wishing self to be male, i.e.
not a victim).
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Denial: no awareness at all; repression of memories; pretending; minimizing
(it wasn't that bad); having dreams or memories ("maybe it's my imagination");
strong, deep, "inappropriate" negative reactions to a person, place or even;
"sensory flashes" (light, a place, a physical feeling) without a sense of
their meaning; remembering the surroundings but not the event.
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Sexual issues; sex feels dirty; aversion to being touched, especially
in a gyn.exam; strong aversion to or attraction to particular sex acts; feeling
betrayed by one's body; trouble integrating sexuality and emotionally; confusion
or overlapping of affection, sex, dominance, aggression, and violence; having
to pursue power in sexual arena which is actually sexual acting out (self
abuse and manipulation, especially among women; abuse of others; especially
among men); compulsively "seductive" or compulsively "asexual"; must be sexual
aggressor or can't be; impersonal, promiscuous sex with strangers concurrent
with inability to have sex in intimate relationship (conflict between sex
and caring); prostitute, stripper, sex symbol, porn actress,; sexual acting
out to meet anger or revenge needs; sexaholism; avoidance; shutdown; crying
after orgasm; all pursuit feels like violation; sexualizing of meaningful
relationships; erotic response to abuse or anger, sexual fantasies of dominance
or rape
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Pattern of ambivalent or intensely conflictive relationships (intimacy
is a problem; also focus shifted from incest issues)
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Avoidance of mirrors (connected with invisibility, shame/self esteem issues,
distrust of perceived body image)
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Desire to change one's name (to disassociate from the perpetrator or to
take control through self labeling)
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Limited tolerance for happiness; active withdrawal from happiness, reluctance
to trust happiness (ice=thin)
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Aversion to making noise (including during sex, crying, laughing or other
body functions); verbal hyper vigilance (careful monitoring of one's words);
quiet voiced, especially when needing to be heard.
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Stealing (adults); stealing and starting fires (children)
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Multiple personality