In July 1999, I contacted the Catholic Family Welfare Bureau, and explained my intent to search for me son, just short of his 20th birthday. The following week at my interview, I was told that 'Patrick' had also made contact with the Bureau in March of that same year, during which time he requested Identifying information on myself, his birth mother. Because we had both contacted the same agency and in just 4 months of each other, I was able to write a letter to Patrick requesting contact knowing it would reach him. I included my phone number, in the hope that he would call. During this interview I was told that Patrick, was now known as 'Simon' and still living in the country with his family, he seemed very happy within himself and was anxious to meet his real mother.
Four days later, I received my call. Simon was obviously nervous, so I spoke for a short time then I had to go and lie on the bed I was shaking so uncontrollably. I could never begin to describe to you what it was like, the emotions that were racing around were so vivid. This moment in time had added an extra dimension in my life. We kept contact via phone for a few week, discussing his birth, my reasons for his adoption, details of my life and of his, we where bonding and coming to terms with our past.
Our first contact was in mid August 1999, when Simon came to Melbourne, and spent the weekend with me. Simon brought many Photo album's of his life and family, I hung on his every word. We exchanged albums and life experiences, after a while I felt comfortable enough to ask Simon to show me his birth mark, I'm not sure why, was it because I've had memories of a baby and now a man stood at my side? Was it truly the baby I gave birth to, my son.
We had many unexplainable similarities with each other, one was having dogs of the same sex, name and even purchasing them in the same month of the same year, they were of different breeds though. Three out of four is not bad, we even had the same make and model of car. Eerie !
We have invited each other to join in family occasions, I've met with Simon's parents and they with mine with a positive result for all. We still keep in contact with each other and are happier in our lives, knowing that we have come Full Circle.
Full Circle
