We here at De_Scribe know how difficult it is to be a teenager. We understand these years of anguish. No one seems to understand what is bothering you, you see a change in your friends, your other relationships. So we, Michelle and Max, are willing to listen. So trust us and tell us what's on your mind. We'll try and help you. Contact us at firstname.lastname@example.org .
-- Michelle and Max.
I have this major problem on my hand. Okay thereís this guy with whom Iíve been talking for the past four months. Heís friends with some of my other friends. Now all my friends are telling me that he likes me. But I've not even seen the guy. I donít like him as anything more than a friend. I donít know how to get him off my back. HELP! --Xyz
The problem you are talking about, can be called overly kind friends problem. The reasons they could be doing this are - a.) They're trying to boost your confidence. Or b.) That this guy really does like you. Now if it is b.), and you really don't like him more than a friend, then the easiest way is to talk it out with him. Of course the not-so-recommended treatment would be that you just ignore this guy (that is if he's not that great a friend) and drill it into your other friends' heads that you really don't like this guy. Of course if its option a.), then well, Heaven help you!
First of all u need to know if he really likes you or are your friends joking. When u get to know that, you should have a talk with him about this whole thing. If you donít like him then clear it out with him. And still if he doesnít go away or bugs you... explain the consequences he could be in if he continued to bug you.
Anyway, keep me informed about what happens.
When I was in eighth grade I made friends with this cute guy. I started
liking himÖa lot. But then he asked me to set him up with another girl. I did.
And it worked out well for them. Almost two years later she ditched him. And he
came to me. So what should I do? Take him back or tell him to get lost?
--Confused Match Maker
Dear Confused Match Maker,
I must say that I don't envy your position. You must sort out one thing first, Do you like him, or you USED to like him? I f you still like him then nothing's stopping you. Go ahead and tell him how you feel. But if this was just a sudden flare of emotion in you, because you liked the guy in the past, then I say, that just forget him. But I must tell you one more thing - After two years if the girl ditches a guy he's mostly heartbroken. So maybe you should go a little slow. But don't wait too long, or it may be a little late.
Dear confused Match Maker,
Great move you set him up with someone . Well but if he does come back.. there isnít any harm in taking him back, unless you donít really like him. And make it hard for him so he values you more than what he did.
I have two best friends. I have known one of them for almost my entire
life and I met the other one a few years back. But hereís the problem Ė I
feel that I can talk more freely to my new friend and end up having a little
more fun with her. I feel that the distance between my old friend and me is
increasing. Is it that I made friends with the wrong person? Or is there
something wrong with me?
Trust me, nothing's wrong with you. Everyone goes through this phase. As you grow you start expecting a little more from your friends and also from yourself. Its very difficult to remain fast friends forever. Also, mostly its like you are bored of your friend and she's bored of you. So you find a bit of more freshness in another friend. So one thing you can try is to bring some surprise in your friendship. Spring surprises on your friend (that does not mean you play pranks on him/her). If this feels a bit too corny, then just give yourself and your friend a bit of time and space. Time will see if your friendship strong enough. Of course you can always introduce your old friend and new friend. if all three of you get along then problem is solved.
The Distance between your good friends is not your nor their fault. You guys need to be more in touch. Moreover your new friend might be sharing similar hobbies and tastes.. But thought u get along, donít neglect your past friends.
My parents have grounded me for life. And why Ė because of my mobile
phone bill! I mean in the first place they give me the phone,
and when I use it, they get mad. Why have they given me the phone anyway, if
they want to restrict the use? Have they just given it to me to keep tabs on my
whereabouts? Please help.
I know that if you've got a resource then you'd want to use it to the fullest. But money doesn't grow on trees either. So how about giving your parents a deal. they should get you a prepaid connection. That way they don't have to waste so much money. As to the keeping tabs on your whereabouts, trust me, that will stop real soon, as soon as your parents get used to you being a teen. Your last ditch attempt can be to send pleas to your friends to call you up instead. Incoming's free! (right?)
used to have the same problem, but I can just advise you that you cut off on the
bill as much as you can. Nowadays sms is an addiction to the youth so itís the
main reason of our bills. And calls are usually incoming which are free now..
Your parents have mainly given the phone to know your whereaboutsÖ but still to minimize your bill go on the cheapest scheme.