Christian Leadership Training Institute
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II. Stress-An Invitation to Self-AppraisalDr. Hans Selye, the World's greatest authority on stress, stated that one kind of stress that can be very damaging to people is the stress, that comes from trying to be something you're not. People who try to be something they're always afraid of having their bluff called, or their inadequacy revealed. Whether these fears are realized or not, the stress is there day after day, year after year, and in the end it takes its toll. IntroductionIt may or may not be true, as Abraham Lincoln is supposed to have said, that "Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." But here is a sense in which it is not the stresses and strains of life as such that trouble us,, but our opinions and attitudes about such circumstances, how we identify them and respond to them. In the exercises that follow, you are invited to work through several self-appraisal exercises, and to give yourself enough additional time to reflect on what they di, and do not, reveal about your present situation in living. The following exercises and resulting scores are not important in themselves; they will be helpful only in so far as they lead you to evaluate the nature and sources of pressures on your functioning as a human, and in so far as they lead you to re-evaluate your style and priorities in living. The exercises are of necessity individualistic, but you may like to consider discussing the results, and your reflections on them, with a cell group or your trainer whom you can trust to be honest and supportive. Other exercises and scales are available for similar purposes; we have chosen those which follow on the basis that they address the issues with which we are most concerned here and experience indicates that they can be completed satisfactorily in private. As a general guide, it is best to work through one exercise, then give yourself at least thirty minutes or more to reflect on the results, and to note down your thoughts and ideas, and what you have discovered in the process. Conclude by reading the associated meditation. Unless you are able to set aside a substantial block of say six hours, it is better to complete the five exercises on separate occasions: don't rush them, especially the crucial reflection and meditation times; and what you will learn by filling-in of the exercises. The five exercises that follow include:
1. Understanding your anxietyYears ago, I went to visit a friend, and I left my two teenagers home alone. I worried. I returned home eight days later at three in the morning. The boys had left the house in perfect order. Nothing had happened. My boys had even missed me. Instructions: Click on the box associate with the number opposite the statement which best represents how you generally feel. Do not spend long on each item There are no "right" or "wrong" answers. When you have completed the eight items, checking the one number for each, add up the eight checked numbers to obtain your Anxiety Score. Note the average scores (50% of people) for this scales are 15 for makes and 16 for females; only one in four males scored 18 or more, and only one in four females scored more than 20; fewer than one in four males or females scored less than 13. Anxiety Trait Almost Never Sometimes Often Almost Always
Blessings and burdens: a meditation
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