From Jason Peterson
There are many things that anger me, but through experience I've learned how to deal with it. The one thing that really makes me angry is when I’m fighting with one of my friends. That's the worst, because I only want to be happy with my friends. Once when I was in a fight with my best friend, I did something I now regret. I tried to bring him down and hurt his feelings, for the reason that I was feeling so hurt myself. The best way I've found to deal with anger is to take a couple minutes, a few breaths, and just calm down. If you don’t calm down, you could do things you regret. It's important to learn to deal with anger for so many reasons. The first one is that you'll deal with different things and people that make you angry throughout your whole life. If you learn how to deal, it will get easier and easier over time and you won’t have to worry about doing things you'll regret.....
Chilling Out That Hot Head...
Something's set you off, and you can feel your blood starting to boil..this is what you can do to stop that anger dead in its tracks!
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1. Start Speaking slowly, in a calm, controlled voice. |
4. Take two or three slow breathes from your stomach. |
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2. Take a few steps backwards, preferably from the person who is making you angry.
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5. try and see the funny side of the situation. |
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3. Relax your muscles. Drop your shoulders, loosen your hand and relax , esspecially the part near your jaw.
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6. Put yourself in the other persons shoes. Chances are, you could be over reacting. |
.::Anger Myths-BUSTED::.
1. That getting angry is the wrong way to behave-
showing anger is appropriate and can be very positive.
2. Getting angry is destructive and negative-getting angry
can often make someone take notice on you inan argument.
3. That you might lose control- letting out the angry feelings
actually make us more familiar with them and able to control
them.
4.That people will want to get back at you- the truth is that most
of the consequences you're worried about won't even happen.
5. That you'll be rejected- being able to express anger to someone
means that you are accepted by them.
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SO...What is ANGER ???
Anger is a normal and very healthy human emotion. It is not necessarily a bad thing and sometimes can be a really creative source of energy that helps motivate us to change our lifes. It's one of the first emotions we experience as babie, and it provides us with a vital boost of physical and emotional energy when we need it most. If you don't express your anger, it can lead to some really bad long-term consequences, like anxiety, depression, irritability and a variety of physical complaints. Anger can also be problematic when it occurs too frequently, lasts too long, leads to aggression or disrupts relationships.We all experience and react to anger in different ways. Some people are just naturally assertive, while other people don't feel very confident in themselves. It boils down to your individual psychology make up-some people are very sensitive and others have thicker skin. Why Am I ANGRY ?? A lot of people think that getting angry happens instantly, but there is actually a subtle chain of events that occurs before anger really sets in. Firstly, there is the trigger.For example, animal cruelty might make you really really angry, therefore, anything to do with cruelty towards animals, might set you off. Then, the physical side of the anger sets in, such as an increased heartbeat,tense muscles and sweating. The chain of events happen so quickly that you don't even get a chance to think about it. Anger can also be the result of poor problem-solving skills. If you have difficulty in thinking of ways to deal with situations, then you're going to get a lot angrier! We are all born with the potential to be aggesive, but the key is learning to behave in a more constructive way.