Punishment Continued
Although it's unpleasant, punishment is sometimes neccisary. No matter what form it takes, it should never be done in anger. It should always be a lesson well learned. I'll give you an example.
A few years ago, when I was with a former Dom of mine (still friends too), I had my driver's license for only about 6 months, so needless to say I was your usual teenage driver (Note I didn't get my driver's license until I was almost 18). I was careful, but still never enjoyed the speed limit very much. My Dom knew this, and told me to keep the speed limit, and allowed a 5 miles over limit. I agreed and went happily on my way the rest of the day.
The next day was the last day for seniors, and I was excited, I sped all the way home (70 in a 45). Now you have to understand this road I was driving on. It's two-laned, no shoulder, and if you go off the road you either hit A) deep ditch or B) a tree. When I got home, I immediately called my Dom, b/c I had told him I would call him when I got home that day. We were talking about how our day went and he asked me if I had sped or not. I'm not on to lie, and he knows when someone is lying, so I was honest. When he asked me how far over I had gone I knew I was in for it.
This is where kneeling on rice came from. I kneeled on it for 10 mintues (first offence, first time w/ it) all the while giving reasons why it's not good to speed. He said getting a speeding ticket was the least of my worries.
There's no reason to list all the reasons, that's not the point of this page. The point is that I accepted that it had to be done. Did he want, or enjoy doing it? No. But he did it, for the right reasons. Did I want it, or enjoy it? No. But I accepted it. And I think this is where most new Doms, and even some experieced ones, get confused. Just b/c a sub accepts a punishment, doesn't mean they enjoy it. They know they have done something displeasing and should accept the consequences.
Did I tell my Dom I was sorry before he ever said "Go get a cup of rice"? Of course I did. Did he accept my apology? Yup, he wouldn't have been a good Dom otherwise. Did I genuanly mean my apology? Yes, I did, b/c I heard the disapointment in his voice, and for me that was worse. Did it excuse, or get me out of the consequence of being disobediant? Nope. All actions have consequences wether you're sorry for them or not. Life teaches you that one.
So wether the form of punishment that a Dom choses to give is kneeling on rice, a spanking, or tieing the sub up, it should always be just that: a punishment, and it should be handled w/ love and acceptance, even if that acceptance is realized after the consequence is over.
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