~Carpe Diem~

How to get things you don’t have…I am not promoting the stealing of material things.

      This page is to help guide the desperately single get the right moves to catch the eye of the person he or she is doting.  I am not guaranteeing these suggestions will bag your crush every time, but they may give you the opportunity to get their attention. If there are any suggestions, email them to ajeanwood@hotmail.com.

 

For the guys out there trying to bag the hot babe:

1.               Chivalry is not dead. Opening the door for a girl, pulling out a chair for her, opening her car door before you open yours, giving compliments, buying flowers for her…all of these shows that you want her to feel special.

2.               Talk. She may talk your ear off because she wants you to talk back. Tell her about your youth, likes, dislike, and anything else you feel is important to you. Don’t be afraid to speak your mind.

3.               Keep up your appearance. Not showering for a few days?  Forgot to change your two day old socks? Didn’t comb your hair today? Forget about the girl tomorrow. Buy good smelling cologne…girls love smelling boy.

4.               Do something she’ll remember you for. Be the guy who talked in class or who has the irresistible scent. A good one is to always say hi to her and smile, girls remember sincerity.

5.               If she’s in your class try to sit by her. Pair up with her for projects, study together, or ask her questions about the homework assignments. If you can’t manage that at least say hi.

6.               Smile. Smiling shows that you are genuine. It causes your eyes to sparkle, and your mouth look kissable. Plus you can lift any bad mood. Just smile.

7.               Learn her name. If she has a nickname, find out her real name. Ask if it is okay if you can call her by her real name.

8.               Make the first move. Ask her to hangout, go for a walk, or plan a study date and dinner. Be creative. Sometime the more active the activity the better.

9.               Don’t ditch your friends for her. When you like a girl, you want to spend time with her. But she should understand if you have guy things planned with your friends. Spending too much time together won’t allow you to recharge yourself.

10.         Use your connections. Have your friends introduce you. Ask friends about her and find out some initial information, it may better prepare you for a conversation with her in the future. The only problem is your friends may insist that it was their doing that you two got together. It’s a small price to pay though.

For the girl after the stud:

1.               Don’t be afraid to day hi to him. Saying hi is a great conversation starter, and try following it up with a compliment. For example: “Hi Sean. I really like your shirt.” It never hurts anyone to say hi.

2.               Take compliments and give them back. When you receive a compliment don’t say that it isn’t true. If the guy says something nice it means he really notices something about you. Take it and say thank you. Don’t be stingy on compliments for him too. He feels as insecure as you do, so compliment him on something that attracts you to him.

3.               Listen, He has things to say too. Do you find yourself to one talking all the time? Ask him some questions, but don’t grill him as if you are an FBI agent. When you say something about what you like or your childhood, ask if he has memories or likes on the same subject.

4.               Keep up your appearance. Feel like wearing sweats today for class? Think again. If you want a guy to notice you, you have to make your appearance noticeable. Don’t dress like you do on weekends when you are scouting for men, but take the time to do something different with your hair, spray some perfume, or assemble a cute day outfit the night before.

5.               Do something that will make him remember you. Your scent, your sense of fashion, the questions you ask in class…these all can leave a good impression in his memory.

6.               Smile! He wants to see your eyes sparkle. Smiling is a great way to make anyone feel comfortable around you.

7.               Be assertive and not a stalker. Don’t be afraid to make the first move and ask him out, but don’t step over the stalker boundaries. If he always finds an excuse not to be with you then that might be a hint that it is not meant to be.

8.               Don’t ditch your friends. Your girlfriends will always be there for you. A guy may limit your time with friends, but don’t allow him to control who your friends are.

9.               Use your connections. Have friends work their magic and set you and your flame up on a date. Plus have your friends talk you up, but only using truthful information.

10.         Be yourself. I know it is cliché to say this, but if you really think about it the phrase makes sense. Why pretend to be someone you are not. If he can’t see what a great person you are then he’s the one missing out on you not you with him.

Universal qualities guys want in girls and girls want in guys:

o   Listener/Talker	o   Smile
o   Humor/Nice Laugh	o   Eyes
o   Intelligence	o   Teeth
o   Sentimental/Sensitive	o   Hair
o   Active/Motivated/Focused	o   Arms
o   Personable	o   Abs
o   Friendly/Warm	o   Butt/Breasts