Keep it in your pants!
We Christians (supposedly) believe in the importance of sexual purity. Saint Paul discusses how each and everyone’s body is the dwelling place of the Holy Spirit and we are to avoid physical immorality:
“This is the will of God, your holiness: that you refrain from immorality, that each of you know how to acquire a wife (or husband if you’re a female) for himself in holiness and honor, not in lustful passion as do the Gentiles who do not know God; not to take advantage of or exploit a brother (sister) in this matter, for the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you before and solemnly affirmed. For God did not call us to impurity but to holiness. Therefore, whoever disregards this, disregards not a human being but God, who (also) gives his Holy Spirit to you.” (1 Thessalonians 4: 3-8).
So what Paul is saying here is that we need to be sexually pure not because Pope John Paul II says so, not because a priest says so, not because your parents tell you so, not because I tell you so, but God Almighty (who created you) said so. Don’t disregard the word of God—you would only be hurting your relationship wit Him. Paul says, in the above passage, that if you fornicate (have sex outside of marriage), you don’t truly know God. And if you do have sexual relations before you’re married, you’re not only sinning against yourself and your sex partner, you’re sinning against God because God dwells everywhere—including the hearts and minds of every human. In short, if you’re not sexually faithful (by losing your virginity to others before you meet your future spouse whom you’ve never met), you’re also not spiritually faithful to God.
Sex is a tough thing to deal with, but I love talking about it, especially with teenagers and people my own age. I know how it goes. I’m still a virgin and I’m still holding out hope that I can have true love with the one I marry and give her my virginity, because I loved her before I even met her (and I do expect the same back). However, that doesn’t mean I have no sexual energy. In fact, if you don’t have sexual energy, you better check your pulse because there’s probably something wrong with you!
In all seriousness though, you could compare sex and sexuality to firearms. Both are powerful forces and both are often misused. Guns can be used by thugs to terrorize and to commit crime, although the original purpose of these guns is for sport and self-defense. Sex is meant for a woman and a man to engage in the greatest level of physical intimacy and to produce offspring, but often it’s used for 5 minutes of pleasure.
Do you really want to control your sexuality? Do you want to stay to true to God and your future spouse by remaining pure? One thing is for sure: Jesus would want you to.
If there’s any confusion about what is acceptable and unacceptable sexually speaking, ask what Jesus would want me to do:
*Would Christ Jesus, who died on a cross for me and my sins, want me to masturbate because I’m depressed or anxious or even lonely?
*I wonder what Jesus would think of me having oral sex with this girl I just met.
*Would Jesus of Nazareth, want me to have pre-marital sex with this guy I met at a party tonite?
*What would the Lord Jesus think of me if I had pre-marital sex with my boyfriend of 8 months and used “the pill”?
Keep in mind, Jesus Christ was a man as well. While he is truly God and truly man, don’t think he wasn’t tempted sexually. Jesus was like us humans in all ways but sin. Jesus knows how it is to be tempted by sin.
Sex is powerful and emotional. Don’t be surprised if you stumble and fall on your way to chastity and remaining pure. It happens, it’s all part of human nature. But like Jesus said to the woman who was caught in adultery, “Neither do I condemn you. Go, (and) from now on do not sin any more.” That doesn’t mean our sins are forgiven and we keep masturbating, or looking at pornography, or having more pre-marital sex, it means STOP SINNING.
Remaining sexually pure is beneficial twofold: it keeps our relationship with God intact and it prefigures happy marriages (if the sexual purity is mutual and has good intents) later in life. We are all human and our sexual energy can be a bit much at times. We’ll all stumble and fall at one time (atleast masturbation), but we must strive toward holiness with God; that means we recognize our faults and stop doing these things which prevent a perfect relationship between you and God. To love God the most you can and to remain chaste for your future spouse someday, keep in mind, “What would Jesus want me to do?”
If you follow the path to a good and pure heart with regard to sex, the path will bring you to a happy marriage and a closer relationship with the Lord, your Creator.
And may each of you know Jesus’ love today and forever, amen! + + +