A Few Thoughts

There are some things that i have a strong opinion on, a few things that i've given thought to and felt compelled to share, and a few things i've picked up on the internet along my journey.
Online Submission

It's online that i've met my Master Enforceher, and sustained this loving relationship for all this time, even with our distance from one another.
There are wonderful people one can meet online and of course, those who make a mockery of D/s by presenting themselves as dominants or subs, but are merely playing with nothing more than kinky bedroom sex. Even online can be felt if the vibes (no pun intended) are strong between a couple; He has the power to make me feel like i'm owned and belong to Him. He has the power to make me feel like i've failed Him, overwhelming me with guilt and a sense of failure in my mind. All with just a few dropped words on a screen. The downside of online is that its much too easy to misinterpret words because of the lack of intonations of a voice... Was He just joking or was He serious? Did that sound like i was sassing or better yet.. did i hide my anger well enough?
Just as any relationship, it requires maintenance... daily, even. I desperately need to feel Him in my life besides just the warm loving feelings i carry all the time. Feeling the Master in Him comes with the tasks He will give me, done with pride that i have been asked to do them as well as because i know it will make Him happy and proud of how well i complete them. Over the course of a growing relationship, you find the need to meet one another. Safemeet

Then what of those who are merely egotists, control freaks, who use an emotionally needy submissive who melts at the attention she gets? There are the Predators, ones all new submissives should be aware of lurking out there. Subspace is possible with the right combination, and the sleeziest user will use it to his advantage, mind control so easy to obtain.


Many have thoughts on a relationship based online, some supportive, some not; some must have it this way because of real life circumstances or distance. Learning to submit online is word based, beginning with learning one another's deepest and darkest secrets, sometimes finding a new self that could only have been brought out by a dominant. In beginning to learn about D/s, we all probably read online, got the courage to visit chat rooms and watched... becoming aroused by the control witnessed. There were words used and scenes done that we only could fantasize about.

Then along comes someone who shows an interest in you, telling you what he knows will make you melt inside, romantic and erotic both.

Having been online for several years, i feel like i've seen all types of dominants and submissives. Some are only here to play, to have cyber sex, to get what they can at the intensity they want and then disappear the next day.
Many perceive cheating in different ways... going out and finding someone to satisfy you for what you don't get at home, not enough sex, or finding someone who will do the things for you that your partner won't, making your fantasies come true that your vanilla partner won't even consider because you're *perverted and sick*. Well, cybersex to some is a form of cheating or infidelity because even though you aren't touching the body, you're touching the mind and pleasuring yourself and your cybersex partner. Most say, if you're doing something your real-life beloved doesn't know about, is that cheating? Do you look forward to talking to your cyber partner each day to fill a void in your home life, and is it taking time away from your r/l partner? Do you find the play and talk and the whole cyber relationship just that... play, and fantasy? Well i have news for you, there are real people sitting on the other side of the screen, people who fall deeply in love with the idea of the lifestyle, who may or may not meet their cyber partner, and will invest so much of themselves emotionally.. body, maybe not because its online, but mind and soul, yes.
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