The following model describes [in a nutshell] the basic components for
offender recovery.
The first piece of the model, is the offender. Offenders generally don't
volunteer that they have a serious problem. Offenders, are usually in denial.
They blame others, or justify their actions, or minimize the seriousness of it.
The only way out, is, total honesty. And, that is the paradox. Such honesty
usually only comes after a painful disclosure, such as an arrest. And, then, denial
tends to come off in small layers at a time. All along the way, offenders have
a choice: continue on the road to total honesty, or practice deception [which may
or may not lead to further offending]. Offenders usually will be only as honest
as they are required to be. To be totally honest, requires a continual self-
examination, which discloses work that needs to be done. Offenders never just
arrive, with no more issues to work on. Because offenders have blindspots, they
need others to point out their discrepancies, lies, justifying, blame, poor choices,
etc.
That is where community comes in.
GO Community!
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