Every girl’s dream, to find her soul mate. Someone who will take care of them, listens to them, and most importantly loves them. A soul mate is someone who completes you, makes you whole, and who you understand without extra thought. People can spend their whole lives looking for their soul mate. But some of those years come much too soon. Many relationships in the years of youth are only trials, excuses for experimenting on the “forbidden” physical side of love. The truth is, no one can truly love another person until they are grown, and these little “relationships” do nothing except end childhood many years too soon.

Relationships are very trying. They require time and effort to make them work, and a clear concept of reality. Youth has a very limited reality, but their time is near limitless. Unfortunately, no one knows how to give effort to a relationship in their youth.

Right now I’m sure there are people disagreeing with me. “How can you say I didn’t actually love him/her?” the broken hearted ones are screaming. “I gave them everything I had to give!” say still others. But the truth is, relationships in youth are all about having fun. They’re not about the true ideals of relationships, about finding someone to spend the rest of your life with. Oh, sure, that thought might come up to some young lovers, especially those that have shared the most personal experiences together. But they aren’t thinking about a family. They are thinking about themselves, and only themselves, nothing more.

We have raised two generations of feel-goods and we wonder why America is being looked on with disgust. We have managed to tarnish one of the only good things that come out of human life, the family, to a point where there are so many variations on it, it’s become like our economy. A dozen kinds of toothpaste, kitty litter, condoms, and brands of clothes to the dozen types of families that now exist. Nuclear, extended, step, step-step, children of the affairs, and children of the children too young to parent…the list keeps going. And keeps getting added to.

What happened to the time where a girl’s worth was measured mostly by her purity? Sure, it was also in a time when all they did was cook and clean and tend their homes, but that’s all they needed to do. Now we have the stay-at-home-daddy’s while mommy goes out to work. That’s about the only good thing that has come out of this twisted revolutionary society. But that one good thing is by far not worth what it has cost.

Children, growing up with only one parent because their fathers left their pregnant mother. Two lives ruined by one mistake. And we accept this! We send the kid to counseling, the mom to the psychiatrist to “talk” about why her lover left her. And its happening to young girls, not just grown women who should know better! We can turn on the television EVERYDAY and see just what our country has bred. There are too many of them, and not nearly enough justice.

But who do we blame? The media? No, they’re just profiting from the trend, they didn’t start it. The boy’s who can’t keep their cocks in their zippers? Partly, but that’s always been a problem. The girls, who nowadays feel left out if they’re still virgins at 17? No, girls have always wanted to experiment. So who’s fault is it? Who can we charge with these horrible crimes, of stealing the childhoods away from our children, of giving birth to this trend of single moms, latch-key children, and psychiatric drugs for every other bad day? Who?

We can blame ourselves. There is no one person that caused this, it was all of us. All of us that chose not to speak up, to only become caught up in the trend and not question why it was a trend in the first place. We now dress our kids in Baby Gap and let them wear make-up at age 9 or 10. We ENCOURAGE this society of teenage pregnancy, but expect our kids to realize we’re not actually encouraging them to start dating and getting pregnant. We just want them to fit in. Because, after all, those that don’t wear make-up, and flashy clothes, and listen to certain music are marked as “outsiders” and their lives are made a living hell. Why?

Because we’re all searching for our soul mates. We just forget about the things that come out in the meantime. There is a point in everyone’s life where they are faced with the question of finding happiness elsewhere or staying where they are and being content. And since America is a land dedicated to the pursuit of happiness, why shouldn’t the parents abandon their kids in hopes of finding this happiness again? Why should they stop looking for their soul mate? Why should it matter to us that we sleep with our secretaries because they turn us on a lot more than the people we married? They didn’t look like THAT when we married them.

I ask, why does that come as a surprise? And if you wanted to be happy, you should have thought about that BEFORE creating a life. Not after. And for God’s sake, stop encouraging the kids to be part of the problem. Tell them to just have fun, and not worry about things so much. We need to live for our kids, not through them. We must encourage them in positive ways, not give them more burdens. We need to encourage their purity, their goodness, because after all, they are our future. Wouldn’t we want it to be good and pure?

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