a serious question
Mood:  lazy
after watching the movie, little black book, i wonder whether it is better to be oblivious and content with life or to find out what you don't know, but are curious about. in the movie, the main girl snoops through her bf's palm pilot and finds info on his ex-gfs along with other things that she didn't know about him. this eventually leads to their break-up. i know this is invasion of privacy, but if she could've found a more moral way to do it, should she have tried to find out more about her boyfriend, or just stayed happy in her relationship? if omission is betrayal, how will we know if we are being betrayed all the time if we don't try to find out more? if there is something you want to know, yet the answer has not made it to you by itself, should you look for it? i've always wondered this, whether it is better to stay in the dark and be happy, or to find the answer to what you're wondering. i'm sure everyone has been in a situation like this. and i guess the answer is really situational. yet, i wish there was a definite yes or no that could apply to every situation. many times there are regrets in looking for something that you could live without knowing, but, also, in many cases you are better off knowing. you might not be as happy as you were before, yet to think you didn't know whatever it is before is unbelievable. although, another outcome is that what you were looking for is what you had confidence in all along, so there really was no point in looking further. you may feel better knowing you were right, yet you often feel bad for being in doubt. for example, (and this is completely made-up) if you think your friend is cheating on their bf/gf. you are perfectly fine NOT KNOWING if they are or not, it doesn't really change your life in any way. however, you really want to know. so do you go and try and find out in order to help their bf/gf or do you stick with the confidence you have in your friend and let it go. if you do try to find out, you could ruin your friendship by betraying them. if you don't you will live with the question in the back of your mind forever. what's more important: having confidence in the person or situation, or knowing the truth? if you ask me, it's a pretty tough call. in this case, i guess the moral thing to do is trust your friend and drop it. but it's not always that easy (if that even was "easy" :-/)...
seriously, that is a REALLY tough decision. every so often a situation like that comes up and i wonder what to do. now, usually, i can't control myself and look for the answer to my question, and usually i regret it. it's never anything too important, just a waste of my time finding an answer i already knew. but one day, there will be a more serious situation i must face, and i probably won't have a clue what to do. *sigh* life is so confusing..

the end.


post script- happy 18th b'day to megan!! (tomorrow) :-D