Welcome to My New World!

Hi, I am Dr. Tim - a living, breathing and actually employed Sociologist.   My personal web was once here,  but now I hide that.  As we all hide our true/false genders.  We have all the legal protections won by the Gays, but still we hide in fear.  Every wonder why?  And why we are not liked by either straights or gays?  I will not tell you.  You must find your own answer, and it will set you free.

My web was meant to solve a personal problem of finding a "population" of potential mates.  I wanted a date.  And it solved that problem within a few days.  But I learned too much about our TG Community, and I cannot forget any of the joy and pain.  So, for the first time in my career, I become a teacher.  Because I have learned an important thing and must share it with you.

WOMEN: You have many men who love you just because of who you are.  The sacrifices you make for your lifestyle is not a personal thing.  It changes you and makes  you better than most.  It shows in every word and every action.  And the men who send you dirty emails are children, but they still love you.  And you need these men and they need you.  As is always the way with men and women

 

MEN: Stop playing games and take a look around.  We have suffered with our own sexual identities as much as any TG.  And when the dust settled,  we came up male.  But we still love the female side of ourselves.  And we can express it as love to the TGs we admire so much.  And who need us.  So  learn a simple thing:  We can never be sure of truth and false in real life or on the web.  But sincerity is an absolute and it shines out like a light beacon.  Be sincere and polite, and all your dreams will come true.  Now go build your own web and remember that you never win the heart of a Lady with dirty talk, only honesty.

And I spent a month telling this to the TG community and its Leadership.  And I was branded a pervert, a manipulator and a fake.  And I smiled, because what are all TG's?  And you are not bad people, and neither am I.   And I tell all men and women of the TG Community to get over this self absorption with gender and sex.  What counts in any human life are the relationships we build.  Do not let this slip by as you try to correct a genetic mistake.  Take time to be human.  Take a risk and trust someone.  You WILL get hurt.  But that is life.  And if you survive, you will eventually find your own happiness.  As will I someday.

And if anybody want to join this Revolution of Romance,  then become a leader.  I think of myself as Marx, not Lenin.  I am not a leader, just an observer.  But I have one bit of advice:   Make your own copy of this page and use it often:   http://angelfire.com/tv/transfile/hotsex.htm   And remember that men are men.  And its always been women who tamed them from sexual predators to Lovers and Husbands.  And if you are a women, accept this burden too as all women do.  And if you want to do more and help others, here is a battle plan for the Revolution:  http://angelfire.com/tv/transfile/plan.htm   but only one battle, and not the war.  For as Thurber said so many years ago,:   The battle of the sexes cannot be won because of too much fratranzing with the enemy.

And if you are gay, then let the straights live their lives.  Or the other way around.  For the only true virtue and the only true greed is LOVE.  And love is more important than gender or doing "good" or anything else.  Or so say I and just about every wise man/women I read.

I am leaving this identity behind.  But I will always be on the Web with a new name but the same message.  And if you are one of those I annoyed with my message, then you will have no peace.  Because anybody could actually be me.  Trying to teach you the same thing in a different way.  Because I am a Teacher now and that is my true calling.

I will check this address occasionally for serious questions.  The more complex the better, because Shannon's Law of Information works better in complex systems (look it up, it is the Law of the Universe, Life and Everything).  And all complex things must be simple at heart.  But do not expect a fast response.  For I have living to do, and I'll check this site only when I am in the Teaching mood.  But all serious questions will be answered.  And I do not guarantee my answer will be right.  But it will give you something new to think about.  That I guarantee.

Dr. Tim
Transphile@hotmail.com