Minimizing- thinking your dad was a little angry last night, when in reality he had beaten you and your mother.

Denying- either you pretend that the abuse never happened, so you don’t have to tell anyone or explain how you let it happen to you, or you deny that what happened back then, has any effect on your life now. (Most don’t realize the effects until their 30’s or 40’s.)

Rationalizing- "he was too drunk, to remember rolling me over and climbing on top of me last night"

And Forgetting- Now this is a good one. It’s very common for children to TRY to forget the abuse. Some children can even forget the abuse, while it’s happening to them now. Many survivors report floating above their bodies, during an event, it’s a way for the child’s mind to say, this is not happening to me. Common ways of ESCAPING are Addictions and Dissociation: Examples are Addictions (alcohol, prostitution/sex, drugs, and food addictions/disorders, lying, self-injury, stealing, gambling and religion.) The other main escape is to Dissociate.

Many survivors, especially sexual survivors, first become aware of a dissociative disorder because they experience PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) symptoms, usually triggered by an important event in their life which has triggered the same coping mechanisms as the original life-threatening trauma. The following are common dissociative disorders:

Dissociative amnesia, Dissociative fugue, Depersonalization disorder, Dissociative disorder NOS.

To understand the common thoughts by professionals on dissociation, it’s helpful to imagine a sliding scale with disorders on it. On the left side, are more normal responses but on the right side would be disorders used to handle traumas as children, that were reinforced into coping devices over time. Beginning on the scale's left with say, daydreaming, then highway hypnosis, then maybe PTSD, amnesia, dissoc. fugue, DDNOS, on the right side of the scale.There is a wide range of experiences in between. Following are a few helpful definitions for those with loved ones or friends in therapy, these are not strictly clinical definitions, but should help you a little to understand them.

• Dissociative amnesia--One or more episodes of inability to recall important personal information, usually of a traumatic or stressful nature, that is too extensive to be explained by ordinary forgetfulness. Not occurring exclusively during the course of another mental disorder, is not due to the effects of a substance, a neurological and/or other general medical condition. The symptoms cause clinically significant distress or impairment in functioning. There are several types of memory disturbances including: localized, selective, generalized, continuous, and systematized.

• Dissociative Disorder Not Otherwise Specified (DDNOS)-- People who have strong dissociative symptoms but do not meet the criteria for any of the specific dissociative disorders. A client who has more than PTSD symptoms or some D.I.D. symptoms but not all the D.I.D. symptoms required for the DSM-IV diagnosis, like amnesia for important personal information, would be an example of a person with DDNOS.

• Dissociative Fugue-- Sudden, unexpected travel from home or work, with the inability to recall some or all of one's past. Confusion about personal identity or assumption of a new identity. The disturbance does not occur exclusively during the course of DID and is not due to the effects of a substance or general medical condition. The symptoms cause clinically significant distress or impairment in functioning. The onset of dissociative fugue is usually related to traumatic, stressful, or overwhelming life events.

• Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) A procedure which produces rapid eye movements in a client while a traumatic memory is recalled and then processed. This technique seems to lessen the amount of therapeutic time needed to process and resolve traumatic memories. Developed by Francine Shapiro, this technique requires training and following of specific protocols for appropriate use. It is not a cure for overall trauma, but may be useful in a very specific trauma event. (earthquake, car crash, shark attack).

• Acute stress disorder-- Similar to Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) in that it is evoked by the same types of stressors that precipitate PTSD. However, in this disorder, the symptoms occur during or immediately following the trauma. The primary criteria are the same as those for PTSD, except that the disturbance lasts for a minimum of two days and a maximum of four weeks and occurs within four weeks of the traumatic event.

• Anniversary Reaction --The experience of reacting with feelings or behavior on the "anniversary" of a previous event. For example, an individual whose house burned down on May 3rd may for years after the event have intense feelings or reactions on or around May 3^rd. In some cases the person may not even consciously recall why he or she is feeling differently on that date. A common anniversary reaction is temporary depression or nightmares.

• Body Memory– Often used incorrectly, it’s actually a misnomer. The body does not have neurons capable of remembering; but the brain does, and can unconsciously recreate it. The term refers to body sensations that symbolically or literally captures some aspect of the trauma. Sensory impulses are recorded in the parietal lobes of the brain, and these remembrances of bodily sensations can be felt when similar occurrences or cues restimulate the stored memories. For example, a person who was raped may later experience pelvic pain similar to that experienced at the time of the event or A smell of a certain cologne, could bring back the back pain of a knife wound. This type of body sensation may occur in any sensory form: Feeling, taste, smell, kinesthetic, or the Eyes. Body memories may be also be diagnosed as somatic memory.
• Borderline personality disorder (BPD) --Is best understood as an attachment disorder. The essential feature of Borderline Personality Disorder is a pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects, and marked impulsivity that begins by early adulthood and is present in a variety of contexts as indicated by five (or more) specific symptoms. Physical and sexual abuse, neglect, hostile conflict, and early parental loss or separation are more common in the childhood histories of those with Borderline Personality Disorder.

• Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) An anxiety disorder based on how an individual responds to a traumatic event. For PTSD, certain criteria must be met: The person has experienced a traumatic event that involved actual or threatened death or serious injury, or a threat to the physical integrity of self or others, and the person's response involved intense fear, helplessness, or horror. The traumatic event is re-experienced in specific ways such as recurrent and intrusive distressing recollections or dreams of the event. Persistent avoidance of stimuli associated with the trauma or numbing of general responsiveness. Persistent symptoms of increased arousal, such as hypervigilance or irritability. Duration of the disturbance (symptoms in Criteria B, C, and D) is more than one month. The disturbance causes clinically significant distress or impairment in functioning. PTSD may be acute, chronic, or with delayed onset.

• Pseudoseizures --Sudden changes in a person's behavior and/or mental state that resemble epileptic seizures but which are not caused by a physical disorder of the brain. They may look like any type of epileptic seizure: staring unresponsively, generalized stiffening and rhythmic jerking, movements of only a few body parts, or alterations of awareness. During these spells, brain cells are firing normally and the brain wave tracing does not show the changes which are characteristic of epileptic seizures. "Several research studies have found that many pseudoseizures are really dissociative trance episodes, dissociative switching of ego states, or dissociative states in which unconscious emotional distress is expressed. Many studies have noted high rates of sexual and physical abuse among pseudoseizure patients and pointed to abuse as one cause of pseudoseizures. Pseudoseizures have been reported in dissociative identity disorder patients and may be the symptom that leads to seeking treatment. However, there are non-dissociative causes for pseudoseizures, so persons who suffer from them should not be assumed to have a dissociative disorder.

These graphics are my own creation and are for my website only -no copying.-Thanks!