How Can I Help You Say Goodbye
(Burton Banks Collins, Karen Good Taylor)
from: Only What I Feel (1993)
Released: March 1994
Billboard #3 Country Single
Nominated 1985 ACM Song Of The Year
Nominated 1985 ACM Video Of The Year
Nominated 1985 Grammy Awards Song Of The Year
Nominated 1984 CMA Video Of The Year
Nominated 1984 CMA Song Of The Year


Epic Promotional CD - March 1994
"It's touched my life, all the experiences I've gone through. The traumas in my life, but, I feel a lot of people have gone through, maybe at one point, in their life. Leaving a hometown where they were going to school, and growing up as a child, and all of a sudden your shocked into having to make a move. And I lost a parent back in 79, and also, I've been through a divorce, so you know, I have been through all those things that have emotionally been a very emotional trauma to me. Moving away from my hometown was very difficult. So this song...that's the reason that the tears flowed. I went into the studio, and was trying to do a demo on it. Just to see what my voice would sound like, and I couldn't get beyond the second verse. Because the third verse of the mother ended up dying, in the third verse is still trying to teach her daughter about changes. There is change in life you have to accept it,and let it turn into something great and good, because that's all a part of life. And also, goodbye is a part of our life. We say goodbye to people everyday of our lives, which is very hard. And this song just touched me so much that I felt like yeah, I had written this song."

Patty Loveless

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Song Lyrics

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Through the back window of our '59 wagon
I watched my best friend Jamie slipping further away
I kept on waving till I couldn't see her
And through my tears I asked again why we couldn't stay
Mama whispered softly, time will ease your pain
Life's about changing, nothing ever stays the same

CHORUS:
And she said, how can I help you to say goodbye
It's okay to hurt, and it's okay to cry
Come let me hold you, and I will try
How can I help you to say goodbye
I sat on our bed, he packed his suitcase
I held a picture of our wedding day
His hands were trembling, we both were crying
He kissed me gently, and then he quickly walked away
I called up Mama, she said, time will ease your pain
Life's about changing, nothing ever stays the same

REPEAT CHORUS

Sitting with Mama, alone in her bedroom
She opened her eyes, and then squeezed my hand
She said, I have to go now, my time here is over
And with her final words she tried to help me understand
Mama whispered softly, time will ease your pain
Life's about changing, nothing ever stays the same

REPEAT CHORUS


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