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Telling Princes from Frogs
If you date total losers you should really check out the book "Do Not Talk To, Touch, Marry, or Otherwise Fiddle with Frogs" - it so SO helpful.  Here are two lists I have started, based on advice from the book. One list is my Ideal Traits in Prince Charming, and the other are traits that to me equal FROG so I know to not proceed any further with this loser. The book encourages pickiness but it also urges you to stay in reality and not make one of your requirements something that will automatically disqualify 99% of all men. That means that I can not make "Must be Native" one of my standards... because only 1% of the population in the U.S. is native. (Unless I move to NDN country, and bring my odds up to 20-30% or so. LoL.)  My ideal prince may not be YOUR ideal Prince so make  a list yourself! However - most of my frog disqualifiers are pretty standard. And for the record, just because someone has froggy traits doesn't mean I think they're bad people. I just think they're a bad match for me.

So Far (and this list will always change and adapt)....

My Ideal Prince should be:
Mixed Race

Dark brown or black hair (that's just my taste)
I love long hair but its not a strict requirement
Tall is nice, but mainly just taller than ME cuz I'm a shrimp
Intelligent enough to have philosophical conversations without asking for word definitions all the time AND

 Can tell the difference between your and you're
Places more importance on community than individualism
Loves nature - outdoors and animals
Really really really good sense of humor (which doesn't center around dick & fart jokes)
Sensitive and respectful of other people's ethnicities, cultures and beliefs while still having strong ideals himself
A good communicator, open. I am too curious for "private" types.
Supportive of my goals and dreams
Finds my quirks amusing and endearing
Views my past as a learning experience, and not anything to be ashamed about (Think "Chasing Amy")
Loves & respects his family, especially his mother (without being a Momma's boy)
Wants kids, or doesn't care if I have kids - either his or adopted
Eats healthy, or at least tries to
Lives life to the fullest and isn't afraid to take chances and try new things
Has dreams, believes in himself and is working to fulfill his potential
Isn't camera shy
Is musically or artistically inclined
Likes curvy women
Verbally complimentary
Likes to look in my eyes and focus on more than just the physical during sex
Holds me when I am sad and comforts me with kisses on my forehead
Holds my hand when we are out together
Isn't shy about showing affection, in private or in public

Froggy Deal Breakers:
NEVER intentionally disrespects me or my loved ones (so even one "Fuck you, bitch" gets you the boot)
No inappropriate sexual propositions early in the relationship, although that falls under the "disrespectful" category
No Alcoholics, not even functional ones.. in fact.. no "regular" drinkers. occasional drinking is fine
No Drug users (past drug use is fine but not current drug use, not even pot)
No history of domestic violence or anger management problems
No prison time (Daddy requires this one.. lol).. Jail time for political activism doesn't count
No Smokers unless they are trying to quit (before they find out I don't like it) or only smoke occasionally in social situations
Is not in any way threatened by my success or status in life
No severe mental or emotional problems (one crazy person in the relationship is enough)
Nobody who is mean spirited or overly judgmental of average people around him
Nobody allergic to animals
No hardcore Christians or Muslims
No republican/capitalist/money-minded
No fence sitters, have an opinion damn it
No cowards
No homophobes
No one super skinny, like Jack the Pumpkin King
No one super overweight (although if I am WITH a guy and he gains weight with age, I really don't care much)
No one that farts or belches in front of me unless it is completely by accident and uncommon. If I can be discreet, so can you. If you can't stop farting you need to see a doctor or something.
No one who is a porn-a-holic
No one who is into the "Barely Legal" porn, or any porn where the woman is being grossly used and disrespected
No one unemployed unless he just moved into the area
Unless he lives in some bizarre place like Davis or Stanford where everyone rides a bike, he should have a car/truck/jeep/etc

 

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