Online
Dominance/submission Ettiquette
The D/s
community is made of up many different lifestyles,
the online D/s community is no exception. There
are online D/s rooms that are focused around
serious lifestyles, playing, certain styles of
D/s such as Gorean. There are ones based on
discussions and learning, while others focus on
sceneing. Learn about the type of room you are in
so that you will fit within the room community
more. Find the room that fits your flavour and
appeals to you.
Listed below
are some common basic behaviours that are common
to most D/s community rooms:
Fill
out a profile, those without a profile
are seen as "Fly By Nite."
Having a profile allows the community to
see some integrity within you. This
allows you to fit in the community
better.
Do not
advertise in the room. It is a sign of
inexperience. Do not come into the room
and announce that you are a Dom or a sub,
do not come into the room asking for
cybersex, or that you want a submissive
or a Dominant. Also, do not come into the
room and ask if anyone wants to IM you.
This presents others that you have a
shallow view of D/s and that you are
looking for instant gratification, this
does not work in the D/s community.
It is
frowned upon when those that enter the
community ask about age / sex / location.
It shows that the user is not interested
in taking the time to learn about room
community and discover the personal lives
of those that are a part of it on a more
personal level. A D/s community does not
cater to children or teens, those in the
community will see when those type of
users enter the room and it will be dealt
with accordingly. Use your profile to
allow others to get an idea of your sex /
age / location.
It is
commonly accepted that one should get
permission to IM a person before doing
so, especially if neither know of each
other. Since this is a D/s community, it
needs to be understood that there are
submissives who have rules that must be
followed by their Dominant. This means
that they might not be allowed to talk to
others by IM. This is the importance of
asking for permission before doing so.
Another aspect that should be noted is
that many of the members are involved in
relationships. Review the profile of the
person you desire to talk with, the
profiles often mention if they are
collared submissive or a Dominant with a
collared submissive.
Always
speak to everyone with respect and
courtesy. Understand that being a
submissive does not mean they are not
independent or that they are not
intelligent, nor does it mean that a
submissive is easy, immoral or a slut. It
is expected that a Dom more then anyone
else should treat all others with respect
and courtesy. In doing so a Dominant will
earn the respect of the other members of
the community, Dom and sub together.
Being a Dominant does not mean that he or
she gets special privileges over the
others in the room, in other words, just
saying you are a Dom or a Master by your
UserName will not give you power over
others in the room. It is important to
remember that a submissive gives her gift
of her submission to a Dominant, a
Dominant does not take this gift without
her consent.
If you
are new to the community, remember that
many have good established friendships
with each other. Be friendly, courteous
and observe the traditions of the room.
Learn about the different roles of the
key members of the room, this will help
in understanding the fundamentals about
the room and the community. In time you
will become and established member of the
community and participating with the new
faces that venture in.
In hopes to
make your visit more insightful, appealing and
enjoyable, we hope the above is a nice guide to
help understand the community. We welcome you to
the community and hope that it is a discovery
that you desire.
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