The
Dominance/submission philosophy
Within
the lifestyle of Dominance/submission, it is held
that there are those who desire to surrender
themselves and there are those who desire to take
control of another. When this union is
established, it is a very powerful and intimate
relationship. The submission is given to the
Dominant. The establishment of this relationship
is not instant, for it takes time to see the
integrity of both partners. This is an important
part of the D/s lifestyle.
Within
these rooms, we honour this relationship, we honour
what it means to be a Dominant and what it means
to be a submissive. Everyone who is in this
lifestyle is respected for who they are. The
respect is held high to show that no one here is
to judge another, as well as to allow everyone to
feel comfortable in the lifestyle that they live.
The
respect that is asked is that we all give each
other the common courtesy one would of any
guest. Nothing more, nothing less.
Try to maintain courtesy within conversations but
try not to give to a person what they have not
actively demonstrated they have earned. It
is seen that many people present themselves as
socially graceless. They seem to desire to
use crudity, open disrespect, anger, crass or
tawdry language and expect that such usage is
acceptable because they are 'self-proclaimed'
(generally the title of Dom/me). How can one
expect to inspire respect if they themselves are
unable to behave in a respectable way?
Unable to carry themselves with pride, dignity
and grace?
Again,
Respect each other with the common courtesy that
one would expect of any guest.
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Online
Dominance/submission Etiquette
The D/s community is made of up many
different lifestyles, the online D/s community is
no exception. There are online D/s rooms that are
focused around serious lifestyles, playing,
certain styles of D/s such as Gorean. There are
ones based on discussions and learning, while
others focus on sceneing. Learn about the type of
room you are in so that you will fit within the
room community more. Find the room that fits your
flavour and appeals to you.
Listed below are some common basic
behaviours that are common to most D/s community
rooms:
Fill out a profile, those
without a profile are seen as "Fly
By Nite." Having a profile allows
the community to see some integrity
within you. This allows you to fit in the
community better.
Do not advertise in the
room. It is a sign of inexperience. Do
not come into the room and announce that
you are a Dom or a sub, do not come into
the room asking for cybersex, or that you
want a submissive or a Dominant. Also, do
not come into the room and ask if anyone
wants to IM you. This presents others
that you have a shallow view of D/s and
that you are looking for instant
gratification, this does not work in the
D/s community.
It is frowned upon when
those that enter the community ask about
age / sex / location. It shows that the
user is not interested in taking the time
to learn about room community and
discover the personal lives of those that
are a part of it on a more personal
level. A D/s community does not cater to
children or teens, those in the community
will see when those type of users enter
the room and it will be dealt with
accordingly. Use your profile to allow
others to get an idea of your sex / age /
location.
It is commonly accepted that
one should get permission to IM a person
before doing so, especially if neither
know of each other. Since this is a D/s
community, it needs to be understood that
there are submissives who have rules that
must be followed by their Dominant. This
means that they might not be allowed to
talk to others by IM. This is the
importance of asking for permission
before doing so. Another aspect that
should be noted is that many of the
members are involved in relationships.
Review the profile of the person you
desire to talk with, the profiles often
mention if they are collared submissive
or a Dominant with a collared submissive.
Always speak to everyone
with respect and courtesy. Understand
that being a submissive does not mean
they are not independent or that they are
not intelligent, nor does it mean that a
submissive is easy, immoral or a slut. It
is expected that a Dom more then anyone
else should treat all others with respect
and courtesy. In doing so a Dominant will
earn the respect of the other members of
the community, Dom and sub together.
Being a Dominant does not mean that he or
she gets special privileges over the
others in the room, in other words, just
saying you are a Dom or a Master by your
UserName will not give you power over
others in the room. It is important to
remember that a submissive gives her gift
of her submission to a Dominant, a
Dominant does not take this gift without
her consent.
If you are new to the
community, remember that many have good
established friendships with each other.
Be friendly, courteous and observe the
traditions of the room. Learn about the
different roles of the key members of the
room, this will help in understanding the
fundamentals about the room and the
community. In time you will become and
established member of the community and
participating with the new faces that
venture in.
In hopes to make your visit more
insightful, appealing and enjoyable, we hope the
above is a nice guide to help understand the
community. We welcome you to the community and
hope that it is a discovery that you desire.
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