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• The Mixed Up World Of Sex And Teens This web site is made for teens of all ages wanting to know about sex information from teens for teens with proven medical facts for truth Welcome to my page!!! You cheated, you lied, you shut me out You tore my heart open and ripped it out Deep inside i would have given my life for you But you walked around without and care and didn't have a clue I gave you everything i had and what did i get? A cracked jaw, broken heart, and a busted upper lip I not only got that but something more Tears on my pillow and a closed heavy door The door was to your heart, It'll never be open again Not even if all i want is just one friend I walk by you in the halls, hoping for another chance But from what you say, I'm not worth a second glance Tell all your other girlfriends i said hi Yes, that's rite, i kno, now u dont have 2 lie But even through all you put me through, I want you to know the truth You mean the world to me, I'm still in love with you..... The hardest battle youre ever gonna fight is the battle to just be you.but you must fight withh ALL your might!!
• FAQ About Sex
• How do you have dry sex? Is it really sex? Dry sex is when people rub their bodies together in ways that feel good. Most of the time, people have dry sex with some or all of their clothes on. They rub their bodies together, usually in ways that make their genitals – penis, vagina, clitoris -- feel good. Sometimes, this will give them an orgasm. Sometimes, people have dry sex with no clothes on, but there’s no penetration. That means no penis, fingers or other objects enter either partner’s body. Dry sex is called that because there’s no swapping of body fluids, reducing the chances of pregnancy or disease. Dry sex can give you sexual pleasure and orgasms, so it’s definitely a type of sexual activity. But, there’s a lot less risk then with sexual intercourse, unless of course you get carried away and end up having “wet sex.” Can you get pregnant by having dry sex? It’s possible in certain situations, but not likely. If a couple keeps their clothes on, the risk of pregnancy or disease is practically zero. Sperm, viruses and bacteria can’t swim through fabric. With no clothes, dry sex gets way more risky. If a guy cums right outside the opening to the girl’s vagina, then those swift and strong sperm can swim in, find an egg and start a pregnancy. And some infections, such as herpes, can spread through skin-to-skin contact, even if there’s no body fluids swapped. The other dry-sex danger is getting carried away and jumping into sexual intercourse, without being prepared. That’s why you need to set firm limits and stop if you feel like you might give in and go beyond those limits. That’s especially true if you’re having dry sex without any clothes. Both partners need to promise to stop before things go too far. what is oral sex? Oral sex is when one person uses the mouth and tongue to stimulate the genitals of another person to make them feel physical pleasure. Not everyone likes oral sex, many people do. Is oral sex really sex? Oral sex can give physical pleasure and orgasms so it’s definitely a sexual behavior. Some people think oral sex is really intimate and means two people are really close to each other. Others, though, see it as less personal than sexual intercourse. Everyone has to decide for themselves what values they place on each sexual behavior. The important thing is to stay true to yourself and resist pressure to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable Can I get a sexually transmitted infection from oral sex? Yes. Oral sex carries a significant risk for spreading STIs, if either partner has one. Herpes, HIV, syphilis, chlamydia, gonorrhea and other diseases can all spread through unprotected oral sex with an infected partner. Just like with sexual intercourse, using latex condoms reduces the risk of infection I’m afraid that my vagina is too smelly to have oral sex. What should I do? This is something plenty of girls and women worry about it, but usually it’s not a problem. If you’re healthy and take regular showers or baths, then your normal scent and taste is probably a turn-on to your partner. If not, then you can skip the oral sex and find other ways to give and receive pleasure Intercourse is painful for my girlfriend. What can I do? When a female becomes sexually excited, the inside of her vagina releases a special lubricating fluid that makes her vagina wet, and that helps sex feel good. If she hasn’t been sexually aroused, her vagina is usually dry before a guy puts his penis into her. And that hurts. Sex can also hurt girls when they’re scared or not really ready for it. They tighten their muscles and that can make sex painful or even impossible. Spend more time talking about how she feels about having sex. It’s important to be sure she feels ready and relaxed and not pressured. If that’s the case, then go slow and give her time to get aroused. This will make sex more pleasurable for you both. You can also buy special lubricants in a drugstore. (Some common brand names are Astroglide, KY Jelly, Slippery Stuff, Wet). These can help prevent the painful friction that makes sex hurt. Why does my boyfriend always have an orgasm during sex and I don’t? That’s because guys can easily reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse and girls usually can’t. Girls usually need much more time and more touch to have an orgasm. They need to have their clitoris, a small bump of flap of skin above the opening of the vagina, touched and rubbed. And that doesn’t usually happen during sexual intercourse. Of course, orgasm shouldn’t be the only goal of getting physical. Sex should bring the intimate pleasure of being so close to another person. But, there’s no denying that orgasms are something that most people find really pleasurable and couples should try to understand what makes their partner feel good How do you kiss? Is there a right way? A good kiss is different for everyone. Some like quick, dry kisses. Others like long, wet kisses. Some people prefer French kissing, when you open your mouth and use your tongue to explore your partner’s mouth. Sometimes, this means short, light flicks of the tongue. Other times, it might be longer, deeper tongue action. Usually, banging teeth or having a tongue jammed into your mouth are turn-offs How do people masturbate? Usually, masturbation is done in private, although some people enjoy masturbating with a partner. Guys usually masturbate by touching or stroking the penis. Some guys use their hand. Others will rub against something like a pillow or mattress. Girls usually masturbate by rubbing or stroking the clitoris, a small, sensitive flap of skin located about an inch above the vaginal opening. Some girls also like to insert something into the vagina when they masturbate. What is an orgasm and how do I know if I’ve had one? An orgasm is a strong, pleasurable feeling that is usually the peak of a sexual encounter. For many, it’s a release of sexual feelings. Most guys usually cum, or ejaculate, when they orgasm. That’s when semen, a whitish fluid, is released from the tip of the penis. It usually takes girls a little longer than guys to have an orgasm. They also usually don’t have one during straightforward sexual intercourse (penis in the vagina). Instead, they usually need the clitoris, a sensitive flap of skin above the opening to the vagina, to be rubbed or touched. Girls can have one orgasm after another, while guys need some time to rest in between. Some girls will release a fluid when they have an orgasm, but many don’t. Often people experience their first orgasm through masturbation, touching themselves for sexual pleasure. This is a normal and healthy way to explore your own body, if you want. Once you know what feels good to you, you can share this with a partner. Can I get pregnant or a sexually transmitted infection from getting fingered or getting a hand job? There’s almost no risk of pregnancy from fingering or hand jobs. If a person has dirty hands and touches another person’s genitals, they can spread germs or bacteria. It’s also possible, but not likely, to spread a sexually transmitted infection this way. And, there’s a very small chance of starting a pregnancy if a guy has sperm on his hand and puts it immediately into his partner’s vagina. It’s a good idea to wash hands before and after any sexual contact. Can you tell if someone is a virgin? It’s impossible for a doctor to examine a girl and tell if she is a virgin. If she still as an intact hymen, then she probably has not had vaginal intercourse. But, if she has no hymen, there could be many reasons for this, and only her word is the definitive answer To find a clinic near you, call Planned Parenthood at 1-800-230-PLAN, visit their website at www.plannedparenthood.org or check in you phone book under "family planning." You can find a range of confidential, trustworthy clinics in your area by clicking here. If you choose to go to family doctor, then you may want to check out how specific laws in your state affect your access to family planning services. The laws are detailed in our project Sex in the States.
• FQA About Pregnancy!!
• What are some common signs and symptoms of pregnancy? The first clue is usually a missed or especially light period. Other signs are breast soreness or tenderness, having to urinate (pee) more often, feeling really tired, feeling nauseous and throwing up. Any of these signs can start happening as early as two weeks after conception. But, they can take longer to show up. And some women never experience any of these things, while others get them all. Every pregnancy is different The condom broke. What are the chances I’m pregnant? Unfortunately, there’s a strong chance you could be pregnant, if the condom broke after your partner ejaculated. If it broke before he ejaculated -- and you stopped having sex – then the chances of you being pregnant are slim. Can I get pregnant if I haven’t started having periods yet? Yes, you can. Anytime a guy and girl have intercourse, pregnancy is possible. Girls usually start ovulating, which means releasing eggs, during puberty. This typically happens between the ages of 9 and 13. Ovulation happens first and then, if an egg isn’t fertilized by sperm, a period starts about two weeks later My boyfriend and I were fooling around and he came on my underwear. I could feel wetness soaking through, and now I’m worried I could be pregnant. Is this possible? Sperm are strong swimmers, but they can’t get swim through clothes. Sperm can only live when they are in a liquid – like semen or in vaginal fluids. Once semen is absorbed into a fabric, they die. My boyfriend and I were fooling around in a Jacuzzi a couple of days ago. Could I be pregnant if my boyfriend came in the pool? If semen is ejaculated into a pool, hot tub, Jacuzzi or bathtub, the sperm will be diluted in the water or killed by the heat, soap or chemicals. They can’t swim through water, into your vagina and start a pregnancy. But, if you have intercourse in a pool, hot tub, or bathtub and your boyfriend cums, or ejaculates, inside your vagina, then pregnancy is definitely possible. Sperm swim quickly into the body and the water can’t get inside and wash it away. Can I get pregnant from giving oral sex to a guy? No. Even if you swallow the semen, the sperm that’s in the semen cannot get into your reproductive system to start a pregnancy. Even if you take semen into your mouth, kiss your partner and then receive oral sex from him, you can’t get pregnant. Sperm cannot survive in his mouth. Can I get pregnant from having anal sex? It’s possible, but not likely. If you have anal sex without a condom, semen can drip out of the anus and into the opening of the vagina. But, the risk is low. How long can sperm live in open air? To be honest, no one knows for sure exactly how long sperm can live outside the body in each and every temperature and situation! A general rule to follow, however, is that if semen is dried up, there is no live sperm in it. If, however, there is still wet semen, there could be live sperm inside. Can you get pregnant from pre-cum? It’s possible, but not likely. Pre-cum or pre-ejaculatory fluid is released when a guy gets an erection. It cleans out the inside of the urethra, which is the tube that carries semen and urine out of the penis. The fluid makes the urethra less acidic and gives the sperm a better shot at surviving the trip from the guy's testicles to the girl's fallopian tubes. There’s usually NO sperm in pre-cum fluid. But, if there are live sperm inside a guy's urethra (because he has ejaculated recently), the pre-cum can “pick up” the leftover sperm on its way through the urethra and out of the penis. If a guy pees after he ejaculates, that would kill leftover sperm. So, say a guy has sex and cums at 9 p.m. He doesn't go to the bathroom after he has sex. At 10 p.m., he gets another erection and pre-cum fluid is released. That can have live sperm in it. Is it enough sperm to get a girl pregnant? Possible, but not probable. Can I get pregnant if he pulls out? Yes. Pulling out, also called "withdrawal" and "coitus interruptus," is risky because the guy has to be totally aware of when he's going to ejaculate, or cum. Then, he has to have enough self-control to pull out before he cums, every single time. Just one mistake can cause a pregnancy. Can a girl get pregnant if she has sex during her period? Any time a girl and a guy have sexual intercourse, there’s a risk of pregnancy. No time of the month is completely safe. But, some times are less risky than others. Most girls ovulate, or release an egg, about 14 days before she gets her period. The egg can only survive for about 24 to 36 hours. She can only get pregnant if sperm reach the egg while it’s still alive. The problem is, ovulation can happen at different times each month. So, it’s really hard to know when you’re fertile. Also, sperm can live up to five days inside a girl’s reproductive system. That means, if a couple has sex on Saturday and the girl ovulates on Wednesday, she could become pregnant on Thursday. Females are least likely to become pregnant two days before their period starts and the first two days of their period. If a girl has sex on day 5 of her period and then ovulates early, say on day 10, there’s a chance some sperm could still be alive and able to fertilize that egg. ********Basically, ECP is used for emergencies -- the condom breaks, a girl forgets to take her birth control pill or she is raped -- to prevent pregnancy after unprotected intercourse has already happened.to find a provider, go to www.not-2-late.com, www.backupyourbirthcontrol.org, www.preven.com, www.gotoplanb.com, or call (888) NOT-2-LATE (668-2528).
• FAQ about abortion
• If I have an abortion, will I be able to get pregnant again? Yes, if you have an abortion, you will be able to get pregnant again without any complications. Medical abortion, if done in the first trimester (first 12 weeks of pregnancy), is twice as safe as getting your tonsils removed and 11 times as safe as childbirth. So, having an abortion will not alter your ability to become pregnant again later in life. And there is no evidence that having more than one abortion causes any health problems. Will having an abortion hurt? The level of pain varies from person to person. Both medical and surgical abortions cause some amount of cramping. These cramps can feel like light to heavy menstrual cramps, like when you get your period. Most women report cramps that last from five minutes to a half hour. It is normal to experience some bleeding during and after both the medical and surgical abortion. You can use pads like when you have your period. Most women find that Tylenol is enough to help with their pain, and they are physically capable of returning to work or school after a surgical abortion. The procedure itself only takes about five minutes. Some kind of painkiller is used in all abortions. Also, general anesthesia can be used if the woman would prefer to be asleep for the procedure. The use of general anesthetics can increase the amount of time the woman would need to remain in the clinic after the procedure and the medical risks of the procedure. The clinic you choose will talk with you more about how you may feel physically and emotionally before, during and after the abortion. It is important to remember that each person has a unique experience of pain, although for the majority of women, abortion is not considered a “painful” procedure if done in the first trimester (three months) of pregnancy. What’s the difference between a surgical abortion and a medical abortion? There are two types of abortions: surgical and medical. Surgical abortions are the most common in the United States and use a procedure called “vacuum aspiration.” The process starts with a pelvic examination. Next, a shot of anesthesia, or pain killer, is applied to the cervix. This numbs the pelvic area. Some choose general anesthesia, which basically means being put to sleep during the abortion. Once the anesthesia, or pain medicine, is applied, the cervix is “dilated” or widened and a vacuum-like tube is inserted. The tube is used to remove the contents of the uterus. The procedure takes between 5 and 15 minutes. The average cost is $295. Many clinics offer sliding fee scales, charging only what a girl or woman can afford to pay. Medical abortions, also called drug-induced abortions, use medicine to cause a miscarriage. They usually require three appointments with a doctor. On the first visit, the doctor will give Mifepristone (also known as RU-486). It works by preventing your body from producing progesterone, a hormone that is necessary for a pregnancy to continue. At the second appointment, usually three days later, another medication is given called Misoprostol. This causes the uterus to contract, which leads to a heavy period and a miscarriage. After taking both medications, it’s important to return to the doctor’s office once again to make sure the abortion is complete and there are no complications. Medical abortions are 95 percent effective and cost about $350 depending on where you live. Can you get an abortion without your parents knowing if you are under 18? Because abortion is controversial, many states have laws that require minors – girls under 18 -- to get a parent’s permission before having an abortion. This is called parental consent. If a minor wants an abortion, and she lives in a state that requires parental consent, there is another option if she can’t tell her parents. She can go before a judge and the judge will then decide whether or not it is in the young woman's best interests to obtain an abortion without her parents knowing because of physical or emotional abuse or incest. This is called judicial bypass. Other states mandate that a parent be notified of their daughter’s decision to have an abortion before she gets one. This is called parental notification. And some require teens to wait a certain period of time between making the decision to have an abortion and actually getting it. This is called a waiting period. To find out the laws in your state, go to Sex inthe States, and go to your state. This project clearly outlines the current laws in your state and where to call for help and more information. Do I have to tell my boyfriend if I choose to have an abortion? What rights does the guy have? If a woman chooses to have an abortion in the United States, she is not required to tell or get permission from her boyfriend or sex partner. Many women do tell their partners, who might then go with them to offer support during the abortion procedure. Some states have laws, though, that require a minor to tell her parents or get their permission before having an abortion. You should check the laws in your state before going ahead with an abortion. (To find out your state's laws, go to the Alan Guttmacher Institute's Web site.) Some states also require a woman to tell her husband before she gets an abortion. For guys, it’s really important to know that, ultimately, the woman is the one who will decide the outcome of the pregnancy. Although it takes two people to create a pregnancy, legally the right to decide whether to have an abortion or not ultimately belongs to the woman. Both partners need to be aware of their legal rights so they can work actively to PREVENT a pregnancy if they are not ready to deal with this situation. Can I make myself have an abortion by falling down the stairs or drinking an herbal tea? No, you can’t make yourself have an abortion by falling down the steps or using an herbal remedy. There are a lot of myths about how to end a pregnancy. It is impossible to tell which ones might work, which ones don’t work, and which ones can kill you. However, surgical and medical abortions are safe, effective and available in the U.S. To find a clinic near you go to Abortion Clinic Online. Women may attempt to give themselves an abortion because they are afraid to talk to someone and feel desperate. But there is help. If you don’t want to carry a pregnancy to term and don’t know what to do next, please call the National Abortion Federation’s hotline: 1-800-772-9100.
• FAQ about teen parenting
• Why is it so much harder for teens to become parents? Taking on the huge responsibility of caring for another person is a big, scary job, no matter how old you are. But, it’s easier for adult couples. They tend to be more settled and stable and be in committed relationships. They’ve usually finished school, have decent jobs and other family supports. These things help a lot when it comes to raising kids. Teens, on the other hand, are still growing up themselves. So, they have to raise a child, while also finishing school and figuring out where they’re headed in life. Teenage couples are usually less stable, because they’re still deciding who they are and what kind of person they want to marry. This all makes teen parenting a difficult – but not impossible – job I’m having a baby soon and don’t know how to deal with the baby’s father. Any advice? First, you need to define your relationship with your baby’s father. Are you and he together as a couple? Just friends? Or barely speaking? What kind of relationship would you like to have with him? Is he someone you would like to possibly marry or live with? Or is he someone you barely know and don’t want an intimate relationship with? Is he responsible? Can you count on him to help care for the baby? You need to answer these questions before deciding how to approach him. So, say you want him around, but he’s not interested. There’s little you can do to force him to be a father. Sometimes, guys change their mind after the baby is born and start wanting to be involved. But not always. So don’t expect it. Start planning your future without him. But, you should take legal steps to get him to help you financially. The law requires him to pay child support. If you can’t afford to hire a lawyer, your state’s child support enforcement agency can tell you how to file for support. Be prepared for a fight, though. This can take time and a lot of energy. But, in the long run, your baby’s future depends on having two parents contributing financially to his upbringing. Now, say the father is around, but you don’t want to be in a relationship with him. He still has a right to be part of his child’s life. And that’s really best for your baby, assuming the father is not abusive to you or the baby. Children do best when both parents are involved in their lives, even if they live in different houses. That means you need to work on creating a “co-parenting” relationship with him. You should talk to him about the progress of the pregnancy, about how you can work together to raise the child, visitation schedules and other stuff that will soon be part of your everyday life. You’re about to embark on a lifelong relationship together. It’s best for your baby if you learn to get along and work together. Now, if the father of your child is abusive and you’re afraid he might hurt you or the baby, you have to get help. You need an adult to help you take legal steps to get full custody of your child. Your parents or other relatives would be the best people to help you with this. If you don’t have anyone to turn to, most states have agencies that offer free legal services. The other extreme is if the father charges that you’re an unfit mother and wants full custody of the child. Again, you’ll need serious legal advice to deal with this. Look to your parents, other trusted adults or your state legal system for help. I got a girl pregnant. She’s having the baby and I don’t know what to do. Help! You have a legal and moral obligation to be involved in your child’s life. That doesn’t mean you have to marry the mother. It just means you have to find a way to be a father and a “parenting partner” to her. Now, you might want to have a romantic relationship with the mother, too. That’s something you two need to figure out. Start by asking yourself some questions. What’s your relationship like now? Are you and she together as a couple? Just friends? Or barely speaking? What kind of relationship would you like with her? Is she someone you would like to be with? Is she someone you would like to possibly marry or live with? Or is she someone you barely know and don’t want an intimate relationship with? You need to be honest with yourself and with her about the relationship between the two of you. So, take some time to figure out how you feel about your baby’s mother. Think about the possibilities for your relationship. Then, talk to her. Tell her how you feel. Listen to how she feels. Once you work out the type of relationship the two of you want, you can focus on figuring out ways to be parents together. That includes dividing up responsibilities. Who will do what for the baby? How will you pay for the expenses of raising a child? Will you stay in school or get a job? You’re about to embark on a lifelong relationship together. It’s best for your baby if you learn to get along and work together. Now, if you’re worried the mother of your child will be unfit -- maybe she uses drugs or is abusive – you should consider taking legal action to gain custody of your child. The charges have to be true. If so, you’ll need help from an adult, preferably your parents or other relatives. If you have no one to turn to, call you local prosecutor’s office. They can steer you toward free legal help. But, be ready for a fight. A custody battle is a complicated legal process that takes time and money.

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