“Is all of this in my best interests?”
Step 3. Apply the Theory of Resistance.
One effective way to get some creative solutions to your problems is to apply
the “theory of resistance.” This theory says that in every activity, there are
one or more resisting factors.
The resistance you encounter often controls how fast you’ll move from where you
are today –- to where you want to go. The good thing is this about identifying
resistance is this: you'll often trigger some very powerful personal insights.
Suppose, for example, your have a goal of doubling your income over the next
three years. You could begin your problem-solving exercise by identifying the
resistance standing in the way of your goal. Ask yourself: “Why is my income not
that high already?”
Step 4. Analyze the Resistance.
Next ruthlessly go after your answers to Step 3. Be totally honest with
yourself. Don't avoid asking hard, painful questions, and demand an answer from
yourself. In the case above you could ask: "Exactly why am I not making twice my
income right now? Exactly what is holding me back?"
Step 5. Take a Look at the Outside World.
One way to immediately determine if the resistance is internal or external is to
see if someone else is managing to accomplish the goal you desire. If they are,
then you can safely conclude the resistance is internal to you.
Step 6. Identify your Primary Internal Resistance.
As a consultant to key executives, I have often discovered that usually 80% of
what holds us back lies within ourselves – and only 20% in the outside world. So
if you have not achieved what you desire, the best place to begin to look for
the source of the resistance is within yourself.
Plus … since it’s so tough to create change in the outside world, it’s far more
effective to focus on yourself anyway. You’re far more likely to get the results
you want!
Superior achievers tend to ask one question when they’re not moving ahead: “What
is it inside me, or that I am doing or thinking, that is holding me back?”
Step 7. Get Ruthless.
There’s a powerful old saying that’s very appropriate here: “When a man’s fight
begins with himself, he is really worth something.”
So sharpen your teeth and bite into your primary internal source of resistance.
Demand answers from yourself. You NEED to know *how* you are placing limitations
on your desired achievement, and look it right in the eyeballs.
Step 8. Turn on the Lights.
The more often you repeat this process, the better you'll get at it. This
process switches on your mental headlight, and you’ll begin to spot internal
resistance before it grabs you by the ankle.
Step 9. Constantly Examine your Goal.
Now that you have your mental headlight on, take a close look at your goal. Make
sure you’ve set a clearly defined goal that you have a burning and passionate
desire to achieve.
Combining your goal with the intense emotion of desire or excitement puts you
into the upper level of achievers. The more excited and enthusiastic you are
about your goal, the more rapidly your mind will go to work to bring the goal
into your life.
Continue to ask focused questions to generate more ideas about to achieve your
goal. The more intense your questions, the more ideas you will generate! And
once you have sunk your teeth into your key internal resistance, you have placed
your feet solidly on the high road to success.
Step 10. Become a Professional Problem Solver
Brain Tracy says, “A goal you have not yet achieved is simply a problem you have
not yet solved.”
In fact, whatever your goal, your real job is to solve any and all problems that
stand between you and the achievement of that goal. Your success in life, your
career, your relationship, and your business all depend on one thing -– your
ability to understand and solve problems.
So from now on just view yourself as a professional problem solver, and watch
your goals fall in place easier than you could have ever imagined.
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