Your words could be here. You never know who you might inspire with your sad story, or possibly even with your strength. What comes to mind when you first see the word "relationships"? A loving relationship with a significant other? An ex-spouse? Your next-door neighbor? Your child(ren)? Your parent(s)? Your relationship with yourself? Your therapist? You're right! All of the above are, indeed, relationships. All human beings have relationships to deal with in their lives on earth. Many say that in recovery, one can deal more consciously and with greater integrity in dealing with relationships. It's certainly an ongoing progress. We grow as we go, most of the time. This page has been created on Tuesday, February 19, 2002 and is completely open for submissions from Serene Sage's visitors. The conscious art of relationship is our focus here. Sad stories are acceptable, because in reality, life's not a bed of roses. Sometimes those thorns come through. Read on...February 20, 2002Michele D.To My (and Her) Unfaithful Lover Try putting yourself in my shoes. Assuming that you love her as much as I love you, think of it this way: You used to come see her every chance you could for over a year. Then, she told you she is getting back with an old lover. Maybe she even works at the same place with him. At any rate, they have a LOT in common and a lot of memories. Now she wants to keep him as her official boyfriend and see you secretly on the side once in a while. How would YOU feel about that? No, no, no, no. You left a message on my answering machine wanting to know if my not wanting to see you anymore is still "in force." It's not a matter of things being "in force." It's a matter of that you are HURTING me by giving me the constant reminder of your love while at the same time being TOTALLY untrue to me and loving someone else. For some crazy hours or days I thought I could handle that. But NO, I can't. I was wrong!!!!!!!!!!!! I just wish you loved me enough to want to go out of your way not to hurt me. Now that would be some better kind of love. Go away, [insert name here]. Go do whatever it is you do and leave me be. You have nothing for me but hours to moments, with the moments being beautiful and the hours being nothing but pain. Don't give me your second best anymore. I don't want it. You don't want me enough to stop seeing her. You don't want me enough, period. But I love myself enough that I don't want the hurt anymore. It is NOT worth it. Go away, go away, go away! Give your less-than-all love to her or go find some other poor female to hurt. I have been hurt enough, and I DON'T deserve to be treated that way. GO, GO, GO!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't like half-assed love. I want a man that is truly loving and PASSIONATE. You are only passionate in sex. You think that is enough? No, it is NOT!!!! As a matter of fact, the passion of the lover's heart is MUCH more important than the sex. Your sex is so passionate and hungry, but your acting-out is about as passionate as a wet sponge. Yech!!!!!! I don't want it!!!!! Get it AWAY from me. It makes my breast shiver and shrink and tremble in disgust and shame. I don't WANT it. Oh you, so disloyal and untrue -- I do not deserve you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! "Doubts are more cruel than the worst of truth." -- Moliere Send your relationship experiences to:confidential@SereneSage
What comes to mind when you first see the word "relationships"? A loving relationship with a significant other? An ex-spouse? Your next-door neighbor? Your child(ren)? Your parent(s)? Your relationship with yourself? Your therapist? You're right!
All of the above are, indeed, relationships. All human beings have relationships to deal with in their lives on earth. Many say that in recovery, one can deal more consciously and with greater integrity in dealing with relationships. It's certainly an ongoing progress. We grow as we go, most of the time.
This page has been created on Tuesday, February 19, 2002 and is completely open for submissions from Serene Sage's visitors. The conscious art of relationship is our focus here. Sad stories are acceptable, because in reality, life's not a bed of roses. Sometimes those thorns come through.
Read on...
February 20, 2002Michele D.
To My (and Her) Unfaithful Lover
Try putting yourself in my shoes. Assuming that you love her as much as I love you, think of it this way:
You used to come see her every chance you could for over a year. Then, she told you she is getting back with an old lover. Maybe she even works at the same place with him. At any rate, they have a LOT in common and a lot of memories. Now she wants to keep him as her official boyfriend and see you secretly on the side once in a while. How would YOU feel about that?
No, no, no, no. You left a message on my answering machine wanting to know if my not wanting to see you anymore is still "in force." It's not a matter of things being "in force." It's a matter of that you are HURTING me by giving me the constant reminder of your love while at the same time being TOTALLY untrue to me and loving someone else. For some crazy hours or days I thought I could handle that. But NO, I can't. I was wrong!!!!!!!!!!!!
I just wish you loved me enough to want to go out of your way not to hurt me. Now that would be some better kind of love.
Go away, [insert name here]. Go do whatever it is you do and leave me be. You have nothing for me but hours to moments, with the moments being beautiful and the hours being nothing but pain. Don't give me your second best anymore. I don't want it. You don't want me enough to stop seeing her. You don't want me enough, period. But I love myself enough that I don't want the hurt anymore. It is NOT worth it.
Go away, go away, go away! Give your less-than-all love to her or go find some other poor female to hurt. I have been hurt enough, and I DON'T deserve to be treated that way.
GO, GO, GO!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't like half-assed love. I want a man that is truly loving and PASSIONATE. You are only passionate in sex. You think that is enough? No, it is NOT!!!! As a matter of fact, the passion of the lover's heart is MUCH more important than the sex. Your sex is so passionate and hungry, but your acting-out is about as passionate as a wet sponge. Yech!!!!!! I don't want it!!!!! Get it AWAY from me. It makes my breast shiver and shrink and tremble in disgust and shame. I don't WANT it.
Oh you, so disloyal and untrue -- I do not deserve you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
"Doubts are more cruel than the worst of truth." -- Moliere
Send your relationship experiences to:confidential@SereneSage
