My mistakes caught up with me
*BIG LONG SIGH*
This is it. I've made so many irrepairable mistakes. I have finally been really truly thinking about what I've done to my husband and my son.
I thought that I truly loved them. What if I don't love them after all? I mean, if one loves a person, they would NOT commit the hideous things that I have done to Aaron and the way that it all affected Trinity.
I called up my family and asked them to bring me home. They're sending me a bus ticket. I am so lost. It all seems so hopeless and I feel so helpless. I feel like I have no choice but to just go. So that Aaron can try to find real love- love that I guess I do not know. I'm crying as I write this. It really breaks my heart to realize I may NOT have known how to love after all.
Or is that my heart breaking? Perhaps I do not even have a heart after all- maybe it's my security blanket being yanked away. The security I felt when I knew my son loved me and that Aaron was so loving and forgiving. I took advantage of that- not realizing what I was doing until recently.
Aaron does not believe me that I truly did not realize what i was doing- but I truly didn't. He says that it takes more effort to do bad shit than it does to just back off and not do anything which would be good stuff.
Maybe this is who I am. Maybe I am just a bad heartless mean bitch who takes everything for granted. I don't want to be that kind of person.
I just have been thinking so much- and feeling so sad and depressed about what I have done to Aaron. and what my son had to go through as a consquence.
I'm just hating myself for destorying so many lives and for robbing Aaron of the last five years of his life.
I don't think there's anything I ever could do to make up for what I've done- lying, cheating on him, ruining things so that he's unable to work, ruining a chance with a girl he wanted to get with because I was jealous, running all of his friends off... Man, Aaron has gone through so much.
He says that I'm feeling sorry for myself, not for him. Well... I do not think I am- I am trying so hard to change and I do not know how. I have been trying and I thought my efforts were fruitful- that I did change- slowly, but a change... I noticed a difference in the way I react. I no longer get angry or jealous when I see him talking to other people. I just back off. Before, I would hound him. I try not to anymore. I try to keep the house clean. I didn't do that before. I'm trying to be thoughtful of Aaron's feelings- by keeping my distance. Before, I'd try to force myself on him.
I thought I changed. I guess I didn't after all. Aaron says that I just stopped doing the bad things, but not doing anything to make it better.
It must be a lost cause.
I'm just going to make information science my whole life. Nothing can ever fill the void in my life that Aaron and especially my son used to fill. But I can distract myself by just immersing myself into my work and education.
I just don't know who I am anymore. I just hope I turn out to be a decent, nice person who knows how to love. It's so... I cant think of the word.... I mean, I must not know love after all, when I thought I did... that's really a big blow and a harsh wake-up call.
I just don't know.