NEGATIVIY CAN'T CREATE POSITIVITYWhen somebody we love hurts us, we’re sad or depressed. We start thinking how to get over this person. What happens then is that we find ourselves talking bad things about them. Do you think this is a solution? No, it isn’t.
Do you think saying negative things erases feelings? We already know you can’t just erase feelings and certainly not this way.
Using this “method” to get over it, is like thinking bad can erase good. You do this because you don’t want to be remembered of those nice things. That would hurt you. But those nice things are a part of you heart. No thought can erase that.
We already know that good and bad means balance. Of course a person is not perfect. But, when you find yourself only talking about those dark things. You’re trying to eliminate the good by the bad. Don’t waste your breath. In the end you’ll only find out that the negativity was nothing more than a mere reflection of your fear, insecurity and low self-esteem to get over it.
You think negativity will keep you from hurting yourself more. You’re wrong there. It will hurt more when you waste so much precious time on negativity only to find out it didn’t help and you’re back at the beginning. That time you wasted could be more useful if you just knew that accepting was the first step to happiness.
Those good memories won’t go away, accept it. Eventually, it’s those sweet memories that can make you smile again. It doesn’t matter what kind of bad things you say about that person. In your heart you know it’s a good person, you know you love him, you know how much fun you had. You just want someone to take the blame for what happened, your sorrow, your pain. Yes, yours, you know that your mind controls your mental state of being, your body.
Don’t use this method to get over someone. You’ll only end up hurt more, back to where you started and being the one who has the fault.
Negativity can’t have a positive reaction. See the paradox? Makes you think, right.
Positivity creates positive things. So stay positive. Keep thinking: I can go through this. He can’t control my feelings. I won’t let him get to me.
You can’t love someone and suddenly hate him, because you are the one who got hurt. It’s selfish and this kind of selfishness is negative influence.
The first step is accepting. After that it’s time to end up good through goodness instead worse through bad.
You can’t deny the way your heart beats, but you can strengthen yourself, through yourself, for yourself, because of yourself. It’s all about you now and you can do it.
May 17th 2003
