FALLING IN LOVE WITH FRIENDS

Falling in love with a good friend is one of the hardest things in love. Especially when you don’t know what the friend feels or know that this feeling isn’t mutual.
You know that the friend would be a worthy lover, you trust him, you know him. On the other hand, it would be too much of a risk, because you think your friendship will die after you break up. If you are able to make a choice, I’d say, take the risk. Who knows, maybe you’ll end up having a long lasting relationship. If you don’t and break up and ending with nothing left. Just be happen you’ve got to experience them both. Things in life just end, nothing to do about that. You can also break up and some way or another stay good friends. At least, you don’t have to think, what if. I don’t agree with the saying:”Frienship always ends in love, but love in friendship never.” What happens with your friendships is in your hands, you just have to work extra hard sometimes.
Taking this risk isn’t the toughest things to do though. It’s confessing what you feel. This is a risk where the most consequences don’t end up good, this is risk where too much fear is involved. You can tell and find out the feeling is not mutual and the friendship will change forever. This is not in your hands anymore, it’s in the others. The feeling can be mutual, but the other person is afraid to take the risk, and again, your friendship is not the same anymore. Of course, it can turn total opposite, but you’re frightened for it no matter what. Of course you are, it’s a good friend. Telling or not is not for me to tell, it’s for you to feel. You’ll feel when it’s time to tell, you’ll feel if it can’t ever be told. Just don’t be afraid to ruin friendships, if the friendship is a truly stong one, it will last.
Falling in love with a friend is very tough, because even if you don’t want it, falling in love just happens.
Why a good friend? Because you feel secure, you trust, you know, you’re not ashamed of yourself, you feel safe and there is a certain foundation.
Just watch out and don’t over-rush things. It might as well be a delusion. Think it over, let your mind decide with it and let your heart tell you what’s it time for, when it’s time, if it’s time. And if the time comes that you can make a choice between staying friends or entering a relationship. Don’t be afraid to take that risk.

June 7th 2003