CHANGE FOR YOURSELFA lot of times I see people around me trying to change themselves for someone else. I know how it is, I was one of those people once too. The why question is: Why do we want to change ourselves for someone else? The answer is simple. We do it or want to do it, because we don’t want to lose the ones we love. Bad traits like getting angry too fast is another thing, it’s about your character, yourself.
So we’re afraid of losing the perticular person. Isn’t it an ancient saying that you should be loved for who you are? It is true. Even if the person didn’t ask you to change, you’re afraid he will still leave you. Well, if you’re really loved, it won’t happen. If it does happen, you’re not loved for who you are, so changing isn’t worth it.
But, even if you want to change, do you think you can? You can’t change yourself on command. Changing just happens, it’s called growing up. You can realize things about yourself that you want to change and then work for it, but you won’t go through the actual change until it’s your time. And some things don’t change. Those are the things that you and your environment just have to accept.
We all experience several turning points in our lives. Moments where things suddenly snap in your head and from one second to the other, your thoughts change, your feelings change and something in you changes. Those turning points are the points where it’s your time to change, the times where you grow up. You don’t know when they come, they just happen.
One last thing. Are you really that weak and dependant that you want to change your whole being for someone else? Someone who isn’t even sure to be in your in life forever. Don’t forget that it’s your life and only you can decide how you live it. Be independant.
Changes don’t happen when you want it, they happen when you realize, when it’s time. Spare yourself the trouble and don’t try to change for someone else. If you want to change do it because of you, for you. And above all, have patience and accept the things that are just you and can’t be changed.
June 03rd 2003
