Duane and his brother, Jason, are truly best friends and military service would've conflicted with the original December wedding.

What do they prefer for shower and wedding gifts?

Honestly? Money. Or furniture. Why not give them money so they can buy their own furniture? Seriously folks, their greatest need is furniture and you can contribute towards individual pieces via their JC Penney registry. Ruthanne and Duane have also registered for kitchenware as well and that selection is mainly found at their Macy's Registry.

If buying a gift from a registry list seems odd to you -- because they won't be surprised, or because it seems "unoriginal" -- put your fears to rest. Couples create their registries to make gift giving convenient for their guests, and take guess work out of the process.

Shipping versus bringing the gift to the wedding

Arriving at the wedding without a gift in hand is by no means a breach of etiquette. In fact, it is probably easier for the couple if you have the gift delivered to them before or after the event, as they will be so busy handling countless details on their wedding day.