This article appeared in the Jan. 29, 2004 Jewish Advocate.

 

 

Parenting adult children, in prose

 

By Susie Davidson

Advocate Correspondent

 

Publisher and editor Sondra Zeidenstein, who appeared along with contributors to her latest collection on Tuesday, Jan. 27 at 7 p.m., at the Newton Free Library, didn't begin writing poetry until she was in her 50Õs.

 

In 1987, noting a lack of published works from mature, honest and bold writers, she founded Chicory Blue Press, an organization which focuses on broad and heartfelt offerings of women over the age of 60. ChicoryÕs latest effort, ÒFamily Reunion: Poems about Parenting Grown Children,Ó grew from a now-healed personal chasm between she and her grown daughter, during which she realized that the painful experience of separating from grown children was largely uncharted in literature. She went on to solicit and release the new volume, which features 65 contemporary American poems by such authors as Maxine Kumin, Raymond Carver and Grace Paley. The book also includes local poets Betty Buchsbaum, Deborah DeNicola, Kinereth Gensler, Nancy Kassell, Myrna Patterson and Judith Steinbergh, who will appear at the Newton reading. Its subjects, Zeidenstein cites in her introduction, range from "the perils and joys of connection" to "pain for terrible misfortune. fear for what might happen, and acknowledgement of our own imperfections and helplessness.Ó

 

A Connecticut resident, Zeidenstein has previously authored the poetry collection ÒA Detail in That Story,Ó and edited ÒA Wider Giving: Women Writing After a Long Silence,Ó ÒThe Crimson Edge: Older Women Writing,Ó and ÒHeart of the Flower: Poems for the Sensuous Gardener.Ó  She has also published the short stories ÒFull MoonÓ by Tema Nason, and ÒBreathing Like a Jew,Ó poems by Florence Weinberger, among other works. ZeidensteinÕs poems about growing up in Pittsburgh reflect Jewish themes; one received an award in a competition from The Judah L. Magnes Museum in California. The title poem of her most recent collection, ÒResistance,Ó is about Daniel Pearl and his wife Mariane.

 

ZeidensteinÕs family belonged to BÕnai Israel Synagogue in Pittsburgh, where she attended its Sunday School and was valedictorian of her 1949 confirmation class. ÒThis was the first class that had a female as valedictorian, which I believe was somewhat controversial,Ó she recalled. Zeidenstein left Pittsburgh for Cambridge when she married her husband George in 1953; the couple then lived in Kathmandu, Nepal where he was Director of the Peace Corps, and Dhaka, Bangladesh, where he was Representative of the Ford Foundation. Zeidenstein taught English and American Literature in Master's Degree programs at both locales. Later, they resided in New York, where George was President of the international organization Population Council.

 

She holds a bachelor of arts degree from the University of Pittsburgh, a master of arts from Harvard University, and a doctorate from Columbia, all in English and American Literature. The ZeidensteinÕs daughter Laura is a midwife and painter, son Peter is a compositor and novelist. They have two grandchildren.

 

ÒIn the last thirty years, poetry has explored and transformed our complicated relationships with our mothers and fathers,Ó said Library Program Director Beth Purcell. ÒBut rarely does one read poems by the mothers and fathers of grown children.Ó

 

 

The reading, which is free, will take place at 7 p.m. at the Newton Free Library, Newton Centre. For further information, please call the Library at 617-796-1360 or email bpurcell@CI.NEWTON.MA.US. For information on Chicory Blue Press, please visit http://www.chicorybluepress.com.

 

 

 

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