You've got the fiance, the date, even the gown. You've certainly made great progress with the basics, and it's on to the venue, event, guest and wedding-party logistics. But don't forget about yourself. The perfect veils, shoes, jewelry, headpieces, hair and other accessories must also be located, hopefully with minimal tsuris.

A good place to start might be one of the comprehensive wedding sites. The Greater Boston Wedding Guide (www.gbwg.com) begins with diagrammed standing arrangements. (The full Jewish schematic, interestingly enough, numbers 18: 1. Bride, 2. Groom, 3. Maid Of Honor, 4. Best Man, 5. Bridesmaids, 6. Ushers, 7. Flower Girl, 8. Ring Bearer, 9. Father of the Bride, 10. Mother of the Bride, 11. Father of the Groom, 12. Mother of the Groom, 13. Rabbi, 14. Cantor, 15. Bride's Grandfather, 16. Bride's Grandmother, 17. Groom Grandfather, and 18. Groom's Grandmother).

Tips on matching the wedding dress and the train to one's body size follow. The site advises wearing wedding-day shoes to fittings, and allowing time for possible alterations to headpieces and veils. So.... best get those accessories, hair styling and makeup down, the sooner the better. Then, once you've got your own look complete, you can focus on the licenses, invitations, ketubah, music, gift registry, caterer, flowers, favors, gifts, cake, photographer, limo, the family issues. And the honeymoon, which you'll need!

No wonder another good local resource, the Boston Wedding Group (www.bostonweddinggroup.com), starts out with info on joining their "Bridal Survival Club" and their Mentoring Program.

It won't be easy, but hopefully, it can be fun. And while one Orthodox woman noted that many religious folks actually go to New York, as "just about everything around here is strapless, frontless, backless...," with accessories along those same lines, many brides-to-be of varying levels of religiosity do find suitable items locally. Here are some tips from people in the community, which may help expedite the process and make it something enjoyable and memorable.

Take it from the top. A great source for veils and headgear turns out to be good old Windsor Button Shop (35 Temple Place, Boston, 617-482-4969, www.windsorbutton.com). Their bridal department carries a huge selection of head pieces and accessories at very affordable prices. Professional bridal consultants are even on duty every weekday but Wednesday, 9-11 a.m. and 2:30-4 p.m., with no appointment needed. You can design and create your own pieces, or order a custom one, with or without attached veil. Crowns come in pearl (fake, of course), rhinestone, floral and a combo, tiaras in rhinestone or pearl, combs in sequins, pearls, beads, and/or porcelain flowers, and headbands in crystal.

For her 2002 wedding at the Gamble Mansion in the Back Bay, Jaimie Adler of Bayleaf Communications in Watertown got her veil and tiara, along with her dress, at L'Elite (276 Newbury St., Boston, 617-424-1010). She found great hairpins at a crafts store in Brookline that sold a bit of jewelry at the counter.

Other veil sources: Boston Wedding Group recommends the Designer Bridal Outlet, located at 269 Washington St. in Wellesley (781-235-6767). Affairs to Remember, on Rt. 28 in Avon (508-587-9100, affairs3@aol.com), both sells and rents a large selection of elegant tiaras, veils, chair covers, ring bearer pillows, garters, cake toppers, columns, tents, linens, etc., which can all be viewed online. DesignThread (69 Lowell Ave., Newtonville 617-965-5751, atelier@designthread.com), is an owner-operated small business that styles, designs and tailors bridal apparel, and provides fashion consulting. Their site includes ideas linked to categories of styles, to help the browser conceptualize and create.

Ruth Vishniavsky of Newton, who recently planned weddings for two daughters, went to Windsor for veils and headpieces. She also went to Claire's and similar shops for combs, fancy bobby and U-pins and other headgear.

With your head covered, jewelry is next. Vishniavsky thought that Joseph Gann Jewelers (387 Washington St. # 407, Boston, 617-426-4932), with a large selection, good prices, free shipping and a knowledgeable staff, was a very nice place to register for china and buy jewelry and watches. Right in Washington Square, YONA Jewelry (617-734-8234; yonajewelrydesign.com), at the Little Swiss House, is Brookline's oldest fine jewelry store. Proprietor Barbara Soifer, a daughter of Holocaust survivors who began the craft as a child in the original Scollay Square location, specializes in custom made gold and platinum pieces, as well as many items from Israel, and can also remake family heirloom jewelry into current styles and preferences. DeScenza Diamonds in Peabody and Framingham, Freedman Jewelers and Hampton Jewels in Dedham, Long's Jewelers in various locales, Romm & Co. in Brockton and Stevens Jewelers in West Springfield are other good places to find dazzling necklaces, earrings, bracelets, anklets, toe rings, and more.

Israel Book Shop (410 Harvard St., Brookline, 617-566-7113), Kolbo Fine Judaica, Inc. (437 Harvard St., Brookline, 617-731-8743), Shuki's (499 Worcester Rd., Framingham, 508-370-0990 and at the JCC in Newton, 671-558-6493, Shukis499@aol.com), Queen Sheba Gifts, Inc. (300 Boylston St. Boston, 617-969-3499), Ruthy's Jewelry (69 Cross Hill Rd., Newton, 617-332-8896), Sarasota (31 Channing St., Newton, 617-527-7083), and Talya, Inc. (Newton, 617-331-0025) sell Israeli jewelry. Israeli jewelry can also be viewed online at many sites, including www.judaicawebstore.com, www.hatikva.com, www.jewelsofisrael.co.il and www.buyisraelgoods.org.

The Mass. Wedding Guide (www.maweddingguide.com) says you don't necessarily have to buy bridal shoes. Options include silk or satin pumps (plain or decorated with appliques), sandals with straps, closed or open-toed slingbacks, bridal boots (with ribbons for laces), ballet slippers, Mary Janes, and for the punk in all of us, white Doc Martens and decorated sneakers. Whatever you choose, the guide advises caution.You won't get much time to sit, so go for comfort, not stilettos, and keep heels under two inches. Dye the shoes to match the dress hue.

Vishniavsky advises, "search everywhere." Shoes To Dye For (formerly the Shoe Horn, 1 Apple Hill, Natick, 888-DYE-ABLE, 508-653-6063, www.shoestodyefor.com) has specialized in bridal, dyeable, and evening shoes for over 33 years and claims the largest selection in New England. Shoe lines include Kenneth Cole, Nina, Dyeables, Coloriffics, Touch Ups, Liz Rene, Shelly George, Grace, Salon, and Colorful Creations. Tiaras, bags, veils and jewelry too. Murray's Shoes (23 Riverside Ave., Medford 1-866-410-4833, www.murrayshoes.com) has shoes, handbags and accessories, as do Sabella Couture (95 Washington St., Canton, 781-828-8686) and Panza Shoes (48 Union Ave., Framingham, 508-872-3334). Saugus Shoe Company's "Special Occasions" department (31 Osprey Rd., Saugus, 781-231-2865) got the nod from Ellen Litt of Newton, whose daughter was married this past July at the Park Plaza. "They had a big selection of white shoes, and my daughter was comfortable." Litt's daughter went to Priscilla of Boston (801 Boylston St., 3rd Floor, Entrance at 45 Fairfield St., Boston, 617-267-9070) for the veil as well as the dress.

Other popular shoe sites include the Altered Bride (376 Boylston St, Boston, 617-859-8289, www.alteredbride.com) and Grandasia Bridal & Fashion (663 Hancock St, Quincy, 617-328-6380, www.grandasia.com). These are one-stops where you can view full bridal wear online. And don't forget hot web shoe sites such as Zappos.com and Shoebuy.com.

Vishniavsky raved about Leora Hyman of Sharon (781-784-9371), who came to the house early to put makeup on everyone. The Mass. Wedding Guide includes a list of statewide hair stylists and makeup artists. Vicki Morganstern (617-367-0103; vmorgenstern@juno.com), a featured beauty contributor on WeddingChannel.com, has beautified Al Gore, former Canadian Prime Minister Kim Campbell, Nathan Lane, Madeleine Albright and many other famous faces. For no-fail makeup that won't run from your tears of joy or relatives' smooches, and will also save you much time, you may want to consider going to Judith DesPres (617-497-3056, yuddbo@aol.com, closeupsinc.com), who does permanent or semipermanent lip liner, eye liner, brows, and eye shadow. DesPres recommends coming in two months before the date, to allow for any possible follow-ups.

The online Wedding Outlet (781-341-9553 or 866-900-9553, info@theweddingoutlet.com) has extensive planning information and a large selection of viewable, low-cost accessories that include garters, bridal purses, wedding charms, and even panties, hats, T-Shirts, "I Love You" sandals and aisle runners, as well as guest books, candles, memory books, caketops and cake servers and more.Collections include Beverly Clark, Cathy's Concepts, Hortense B. Hewitt, Simply Charming, and Lillian Rose. WhiteWedding.com, www.waycoolweddings.com, www.wwwweddings.com and The Knot (http://weddingshop.theknot.com) are other very comprehensive resources.

Wedding shows can provide live viewing of all aspects of a wedding. Wedding Day Expositions (weddingdayonline.com) has been putting on bridal shows in Mass. and R.I. since 1983. With a come-and-go as you please environment, the expo includes two daily bridal fashion shows, at 12:30 and 2:30, and many vendors. Upcoming shows include Jan. 29 at the Wyndham Andover Hotel, Feb. 5 at the Crowne Plaza Natick, Feb. 11 at the Rosecliff Mansion in Newport, R.I., Feb. 12 at the Sheraton Hyannis Resort and Feb. 19 at the Burlington Marriott Hotel.

The Great Bridal Expo, which calls itself "America's No. 1 Consumer Bridal Event," is based in Ft. Lauderdale. Their site (www.greatbridalexpo.com) includes videos of show previews. While an Expo was just held Jan. 22 at the Westin Copley, they are ongoing.

Lastly, you can hit the books. Turn to "The Complete Jewish Wedding Planner" by Wendy Chernak Hefter, "Make Your Own Jewish Wedding: How to Create a Ritual That Expresses Your True Selves" by Ana Schwartzman and Zoe Francesca, "The Creative Jewish Wedding Book: A Hands-On Guide to New & Old Traditions, Ceremonies & Celebrations" by Gabrielle Kaplan-Mayer, "The New Jewish Wedding, Revised" by Anita Diamant, "Jewish Weddings: A Beautiful Guide to Creating the Wedding of Your Dreams" by Rita Milos Brownstein, "The Everything Jewish Wedding Book" by Helen Latner, "The Jewish Way in Love and Marriage," by Maurice Lamm, "Made in Heaven: A Jewish Wedding Guide," by Rabbi Aryeh Kaplan, "Talking Tachlis" by Rosie Einhorn and Sherry S. Zimmerman, and/or "Under the Wedding Canopy: Love and Marriage in Judaism" by David C. and Esther R. Gross. You'll be counting the days!