AFTER THE WEDDING DAY Your wedding is past,and you and your mate are settling down as a new family unit. Is your happiness complete? You are no longer alone but have a companion to confide in, to share your joys and also your problems. Do you find Ecclesiastes true in your case?--"Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their hard work. For if one of them should fall,the other one can raise his partner up. But how will it be with just the one who falls when there is not another to raise him up?" Is your marriage flourishing with this kind of co-operation? It usually takes some time and effort for this happy blending of two lives. But in many marriages,sad to say, it never happens. In romantic tales,the problem often is getting the two who are in love together. But then they live happily ever after. In real life, it is living happily afterward, day by day, that presents the true challenge. After the delights of the wedding day comes the daily routine of life: getting up early, going to work, shopping, cooking meals,washing dishes, cleaning the house , and so on. The marriage relationship requires adjustments. You both entered into it with at least some expectations and ideals tat were not very practical and realistic. When these are not met, some disappointment may come after the first few weeks. But, remember, you have made a big change in your life. You are no longer living alone or with a family that you have been with all your life. You are now with a new person,one you may be discovering that you don't know as well as you thought you did. Your schedule is new, your work may be new, your budget is different,and there are new friends and in-laws to get used to. The success of your marriage and your happiness depend upon your willingness to adjust.