"Dating" is part of the selection process to marriage. It is not for entertainment or pure social. It is purposeful. Its purpose is to find THE ONE to marry.
Concentrate on building friendships, not romantic emotional attachments with the opposite sex, until you are ready for marriage.
Maintain an objective "list" of qualities you are looking for in a husband/wife, BEFORE YOU "FALL IN LOVE", and make sure that you only "date" people with those qualities. If a person is not marriageable by your list, why risk feelings/emotions on a date with that person? You will most likely end up getting "STUCK" forever with that wrong person.
Dating is not "used" to make oneself feel "grown up", popular, or "normal" because everyone else dates. It is solely used to find the lifetime mate that God has intended.
Accept your parents' involvement and obey their judgment/rules/boundaries when it comes to issues surrounding your interactions with the opposite sex;
Parents have the ultimate right to "approve" dates. If they care so much about your school, your activities, and your friends, how much more so they must care about your journey to chooose the right mate.
Date only Christians (II Corinthians 6:14-16) who are
§ Growing in Christ
§ Good reputation
§ Follow/Obey the Lord
§ Self Control
§ Strive for Fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22 love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control)
Girls:
- be prepared to set physical boundaries
- allow boys to assume initiative/leadership in relationship (don't be the one to pursue them)
- forbid any sexual and emotional advances
Girls are stimulated sexually by relationship, words, kindness.
Boys are easily stimulated by touch & sight
Boys be moral leaders and draw boundaries for behavior on dates ahead of time
Treat members of the opposite sex wisely and honorably
Earn your parentstrust that you will do the right thing around your friends or even when NOBODY is watching.
Posted by oz/6chiangs
at 10:11 PM PDT
Updated: Thursday, 3 June 2004 9:17 AM PDT
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Updated: Thursday, 3 June 2004 9:17 AM PDT
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