Created by Dave Boyer 12/2013Vestibulum | Sed vulputate
Dave Boyer, M.Ed, CADC1, LMFT
390 W 12th Ave., Suite 201
Eugene, OR 97401
Phone (541) 344-7088
Fax (888) 990-2234
The Therapeutic Relationship
Fully 50% of the benefits people receive from therapy are usually associated with
the quality of the relationship a person feels they have with their therapist. Ask
Do you feel safe with your therapist?
Is your therapist open and honest with you?
Do you think your therapist is competent?
And perhaps most importantly, do you sense that your therapist genuinely cares for your well-being?
The quality of your therapeutic relationship may have a lot to do with your therapist’s personal style. Shop around until you find one that feels right. Therapy itself may feel painful at times. Your relationship with your therapist should not!
A Readiness For Change
People make important changes within themselves when they act upon a decision to seek help for their problems. Current research is showing that 25% of the benefits people are likely to receive from therapy are usually related directly to these changes.
Another 25% of the benefits people receive from therapy are usually related to how well a particular type of therapy works for them. Cognitive psychologists focus on how people think; behavioral psychologists on people's actions; psychodynamic practitioners on a people's pasts; and marriage and family therapists focus on relationship dynamics. Many therapists carefully integrate practices from a number of different models. A good therapist will be more interested in finding out what works best for you, as opposed to finding a way for you to fit what works best for them.