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~Rest In Peace Justin~
Gathers everyone close to me and hugs you all. --
Lance, 07:57:34 01/14/02 Mon
If I've been distant or unavailable, its only because I've needed some time. Yesterday, I couldnt seem to stop crying and I was lashing out, ranting and raving and angry because there's nothing I can do to change things. Nothing anyone can do will change what happened.
We lost one of our kids. Thats not supposed to happen. We're supposed to be there and help them and keep them safe so they can grow up and have happy, rewarding lives. But something went wrong and now Justin is gone forever.
I just wish I could put my arms around all of you, give you a hug, tell you that I care about all of you, and keep you safe.
Lance........Message from a geezer Daddy -- Lyndie 8-), 11:44:50 01/14/02 Mon
Lance.....True.....we lost one of our kids.
As a dad, let me tell you that dad's can't always be there.
We give our kids the best we can and hope that they don't get hurt.
We let go little by little and pray nothing happens when wer're not there to protect them. But..like it or not, we can't be there 24 /7.
My heart goes out to Justins father, because I know that I'd die inside if anything happened to my son.
My son asked me when I'll stop worrying about him, and I answered him.."When you put me in a box and throw six feet of dirt on me".
It never stops, even if they are married with kids, or independant slutty rawk stars.....FATHERS WORRY, but they can't be there all the time.
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A big hug for you and everyone here. -- Jordana, 18:04:44 01/14/02 Mon
I can't believe that the song I posted (TeenAge DirtBag) was one of Justin's favorite songs. I didnt know him. But I think it was fate that I posted it.
Maybe it was a message sent from him to everyone here, to remember the good things, the good times, the fun things like that song. To remember how he and his band sang that song until he lost his voice. To remember how happy he must have been.
Thank you for telling me about that Lance. Here's an extra hug just for you.
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*BIG WARM HUGS* I've haven't said much cause I really don't know what to say... -- Drew Greyfox, 18:20:31 01/14/02 Mon ...I've been puposefully distracting myself and dealing with it in small doses cause it brings up too many memories and emotions. But I want Lance and everyone else to know that I am here and I'll listen if anybody needs me to.
*hugs*
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Re: Yesterday when I talked to U I was soo shocked, later -- josie, 08:09:55 01/15/02 Tue
when I found out how he ( ya know) I just cried and cried and than I just got soooo mad at him!
I spent most of my time being mad at him and than I settled down and sang this song to him that I really like and guess what happened?????
I dunno if it was a sign for me to stop singing or what!??
But still???
I love you Justin and everyone else here
Josie
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Hugs everyone here, thanks for inviting me -- Badger (Geoff), 12:06:23 01/15/02 Tue
I never had the pleasure of meeting Justin, so I feel a double loss...first, the heart-wrenching loss of one so young, vibrant, full of life; and second, that I never knew first-hand what a treasure I was missing. My heart goes out to his family (especially his dad), and to all of you as well. -----------------------------
Re: Gathers everyone close to me and hugs you all. -- John, 15:15:46 01/15/02 Tue I didnt know Justin but I dont have to. It is enough to know that others did and miss him very much and also it seems to be that you are taking on some guilt because you could have or should have done more to have possibly prevented this tragedy.
To really define what love means is that you love someone well enough to allow them to be free. Do not allow yourself to feel remorse that you did not restrain him from enjoying life. That restraint would perhaps result in the stunted growth of someone that was loved very much. All of us need to stretch and grow and push the envelope as it were. Fortunately most of us were never placed in positions of danger as apparently was experienced by Justin. There can be little doubt that he knew he was loved and that in his final moments he knew that they were indeed final. He knew also that he had been loved enough to be given the opportunity to try.
This is not to dismiss the sorrow felt or to dismiss the loss because it is a real loss. But no one ever said life was easy or even fair.
You should in my estimation take pride that you had taken Justin as far as you were able to and never feel regret that in trying it may appear that you failed. Justin was given to you for only a short time. His Creator chose you to be his guide. You did not fail, you do not know what greater use his Creator has for him but his Creator judged you appropriate to the cause. Be proud of Justin as he was and is of you, pick up your head, dry your tears and go on. That is the greatest honor you can pay his memory.
And I do appreciate the opportunity to be part of this group hug.
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**Hug** -- Mic83, 16:46:45 01/15/02 Tue
Justin, I'm sorry that I never knew you, it appears you certainly had a big impact on the lives of many people, especially for only a fifteen year old. You are in a better place now watching over those who cared.
May you rest in peace always,
--Mike
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A Group Hug for Justin. Hello, everybody. (more) -- Ron, 17:50:29 01/15/02 Tue
I just received an e-mail from Sergio, providing a link to this messageboard, requesting all of Justin's friends join together here in a group hug for him.
This is my first visit here (and I wish it were under happier circumstances). I did not know of Justin at all until just this past weekend, when the moderator of another messageboard ("A Place of Safety") told me about him, and referred me to "The Glass Onion" messageboard to post my thoughts and feelings there. I was deeply moved to see how many friends Justin had there, and am now even more touched by all the friends he had here as well.
Reading through all the many sorrowful tributes and expressions of sympathy, it became ever more clear what a truly special person Justin was, and how empty the world is without him. The added dimension of seeing those pictures of this handsome young man left no doubt that the phrase "gentle giant" was made for him, and that there was perhaps nothing he loved more than initiaing a big group hug (the bigger the better).
For all of you who knew and loved Justin, I can only offer my most sincere condolences (as inadequate as that may be), with the most fervent wish that I could have been among your number, and that I now be allowed to join you in this big group hug for Justin.
Good-bye, Justin. Thank you for making this world a more beautiful place.
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Re: Gathers everyone close to me and hugs you all. -- Karla, 14:40:57 01/16/02 Wed
I can't even imagine...
I didn't even know Justin, but being here reading about him and reading some of his old posts I can only wish I might have been able to get to know him, instead of having to hear about him from the friends and family he left behind. I'm one of those people who never knows what to say at sad times, I wish I had wisdom and insight about the 'right' things to say though it's probably true that they don't even exist. Things like this happen but at least they aren't going unnoticed. I can't bring myself to say something like 'if people learn from this he hasn't died in vain' cause I don't even know if that's true, but I hope those who knew him can find peace somehow in the coming days through just continuing to talk to each other and if you believe, God. Love and confusion,
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For Justin -- Ashley Dawson, 15:21:06 01/16/02 Wed
I feel so lost and I am so sad still, as are you all. I was invited here by Segio, who I have never met, (sorry) to come and join in a group hug.
Please accept my Hug and I hope you all dont mind a wet shoulder cause at the moment I would soak it.
Farewell my Friend and MATE, from your OZ boi.........
"Oh for the touch of a vanished hand and the sound of a voice that is still...." -----------------------------------------
~hugs~ -- craig, 03:46:30 01/17/02 Thu peace to you justin.
peace to you lance.
peace to us all...
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A warm hug for you all -- omen, 07:59:50 01/17/02 Thu Lots of hugs and love in these sad times. Let's not forget Justin and try to make this world a better place for different people everywhere!
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~*HUGE HAPPY DASHEL HUGZ*~ -- Dash, 10:13:54 01/17/02 Thu ...there is nothing better in the world than a hug sometimes, I think...
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But don't forget--you especially Lance; my fellow partner in crime, lwj!!!--Life is beautiful.
Justin was beautiful; and what he is done is beautiful--how he has affected us all is beautiful. All of us have agined and grown and become better for having known him.
This memorial is beautiful. Grief is beautiful; as all emotions--but don't forget that.
Don't let the good be washed away in the tears.
~HUGZ~
I love you all!!!!
Dash
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sorry for the loss, it doesent help........ -- []Dhusio[]\[] A.K.A Matty, 10:58:57 01/17/02 Thu
but i hope its a comfort to know that theres a lot of support behind u looking at the msgs
take good care of yourself and always think in a positive light, thats the soundest advice i can give
seya
Matty ---------------------
Once upon a time there was a wise man
who used to go to the ocean
to do his writing.
He had a habit of walking
on the beach
before he began his work.
One day he was walking along
the shore.
As he looked down the beach,
he saw a human
figure moving like a dancer.
He smiled to himself to think
of someone who would
dance to the day.
So he began to walk faster
to catch up.
As he got closer, he saw
that it was a young man
and the young man wasn't dancing,
but instead he was reaching
down to the shore,
picking up something
and very gently throwing it
into the ocean.
As he got closer he called out,
"Good morning! What are you doing?"
The young man paused,
looked up and replied,
"Throwing starfish in the ocean."
"I guess I should have asked,
why are you throwing starfish
in the ocean?"
"The sun is up and the tide is going out.
And if I don't throw them in they'll die."
"But, young man, don't you realize that
there are miles and miles of beach
and starfish all along it.
You can't possibly make a difference!"
The young man listened politely.
Then bent down, picked up another starfish
and threw it into the sea,
past the breaking waves and said-
"It made a difference for that one."
That's how I see you, Lance, throwing starfish back in the ocean, saving the world, making a difference.
That's how I remember Justin. He wanted to change the world. Look around at all these lives he touched. I think he did.
Re: Gathers everyone close to me and hugs you all. -- George, 19:36:43 01/17/02 Thu
I have never met Justin but wish I could have. It brings me great sorrow to my heart to hear of his passing. When a young person dies it is so hard to understand why. I hope he went peacefully :( My prayers go out to Justin and his family and friends. The world will miss you Justin. :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :(
hugs you all!! You are in my heart -- Ken, 23:00:31 01/17/02 Thu
Guys, I know we all feel a great loss losing someone like Justin. I knew him about 1 year of his 15 and he reached me through his posts and in the chat room. I wish I could have the talent that most of you have to quote song lyrics and make poems but I dont have that kind of talent. I can only say I wished I could have met him in person to say hi and give him a hug. What a loss!
no word i can think of quite does justice
either to hm or what exactley i am feeling because of this, so i guees i'll
leave this mail here, except to offer my deepset sorrow, and of course a
*hug* - wish there was something more meaningfull i could say.
and of course i'll be there for the group hug...
(NT)
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Re: Gathers everyone close to me and hugs you all.
-- Joseph Men, 19:59:23 01/18/02 Fri
Hugs to everyone from a dad with a fifteen year old son. As a parent and someone who has visited and posted every now and then I can tell you that this has affected me deeply.
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GoodBye -- Jackie, 10:28:00 01/18/02 Fri
We will all miss Justin so much. He brought a unique, fun loving, wise beyond
his years perspective to all the msgs boards. We have lost a very special
person. May he be in a place of happiness and love.
To all -- Alex, 10:28:00 01/18/02 Fri
i never really got the chance to say much to justin other than to tell him i
liked his poetry. his words showed how noble and caring a soul he was. he
will be missed and always remembered
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Group Hug -- Clair and David , 10:28:00 01/18/02 Fri
This is from Claire and David in Guildford, England. We didn't know Justin
but were touched with what our friend John had to say about him and his
talent for writing poetry. It is a wonderful gift, that he has touched so
many lives. He was obviously a special person and the world needs more of
these types. We believe he is in a better, happier place now, although it is
hard for who he leaves behind to understand that. He is now at peace. God
rest his soul.
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For the family and friends of Justin -- Ratatosk , 10:28:00 01/18/02 Fri
A late and distant overseas hug for a great kid. I was very saddend by the news that Justin in no longer among us. He was always just SO alive and happy. He always made me smile for his happines. I will miss him. God gathers among himself the ones he loves.
