I Never Held You
Presentation - Highly recommended
"I Never Held You"
is a small work of 7 sections designed to aid women who are suffering
the results of loss of a baby. Areas covered in the book are
Miscarriage, Grieving, Blame, Letting Go, Moving On, My Angel
Baby and Online Resources.
Writer DuBois has crafted a well
written book based on her own experience with miscarriage and
the struggles she, and other women must combat as they learn
to deal with it. DuBois asked that I review the book because
she knew that I too suffered this particular hurt. In her book
writer Dubois says that she still has moments of grief a decade
later, and I will confess that 3 decades later I do the same.
The grief affects not only the woman who has lost her unborn
child but her whole family as well. Many times, my own doctor
told me, marriages fail following the loss of a child, and I
was recently told by my now 30 year old son that on his birthday
he always thinks of the brothers and sister he has never had
the opportunity to know.
"I Never Held You"
gets to the heart of the situation without being maudlin or offering
the ersatz comfort and completely useless advice women so often
hear from those who have had no experience with the plight. The
short length of the book is to be commended. For those newly
suffering from miscarriage a lengthy work is not likely to get
read. This smaller narrative offers brevity plus good solid help
for dealing with the predictable response that follows miscarriage.
Grieving and Blame are a typical,
to be expected, reasonable part of the days following loss of
a child. In "I Never Held You" writer DuBois offers
sensible helpful hints regarding each. It is okay to grieve,
and the compulsion to blame needs to be acknowledged if women
are to be able to deal with and get beyond both. DuBois' poem
My Angel Baby says well what women so often think and feel during
the days following the loss of her child. The links to online
resources are ones women can put to good use as the move from
the grief to healing and acceptance.
This is not a fun little book
for an afternoon of lighthearted reading. It is a valuable resource
to help fill the void of beneficial materials for the woman and
their families after suffering miscarriage.
Highly Recommended for those
women and their families who have faced the sorrow of miscarriage