Friends and family members are people with whom you can share as well. It is important to keep in mind, though, that they may be experiencing their own grief. Also, please remember that seeking help from a professional counselor or minister is NOT a sign of weakness. On the contrary, it shows that you are taking care of yourself and acknowledging your need to grieve.
Children often know when they are not being told the whole truth, or when their questions are being avoided. Loss of TRUST will compound grief. Try your best to answer ALL of the child's questions as directly and as honestly as you can, even if the answer is "I don't know." This expresses your respect towards the child and the feelings he or she is experiencing. Keep in mind that sometimes the answers they will come up with on their own are much more frightening than the truth!
Other losses often accompany the identified loss. A change in residence, caretaker, school or peer group, adds to the loss. Maintain a daily rountine if all possible. Continuity provides children with a sense of security and stability.
Continue to be available long after you think they "should be over it." Children and young people will continue to deal with the losses/changes they experience as they grow through their grief and discover that LOVE NEVER GOES AWAY.
Please feel free to call Hamilton's Academy of Grief And Loss for further information, resourses or help: 515-243-5221