Buy a present in memory of your loved one. Make it something that lives on such as a tree or flowers you can watch bloom and from year after year.
Combine what you would have spent for presents and buy something for the house that has a special meaning.
Buy or make a birthday card for your loved one. Inside, tell your loved one something which you never got a chance to say. Write about what you're feeling, what you're doing ~ anything you want to share!
Visit the cemetery and take flowers, notes, or a balloon bouquet.
Make the day a celebration of your loved ones life. Talk about the good things you remember, the funny things, the jokes played, the special moments and memories.
Your Birthday: Imagine your loved one sitting across from you in an empty chair and say "Thank You" for the ways they were there for you on your birthdays in the past.
Your Wedding Anniversary: Take money left in your loved ones wallet and eat out on your wedding anniversary with a friend ~ compliments of your love.
Light a memorial candle and blow it out at bedtime.
Put a candle in the window and light it every night for a week before your loved one's passing to Heaven. Arrange with a friend or two to do the same.
Buy a single flower in memory of your loved one. Dry it or press it when the day is over. Keep it in a special place.
Visit the cemetery. Have family members bring something special or seasonal to leave on the grave.
Create one hour without pain for yourself on your loved one's death day.
You can use a vacation to strengthen bonds with supportive family and friends.
To discover that you can function on your own.
To know some measure of happiness without your loved one.
To remove yourself from the grind of your grief, from your own deadening.
To let nature act as aid and antidote to your sorrow.
You can bear the pain of your special days if you feel pleasure alongside the pain.