Movies and Other works
Birthdate: December 31, 1959
Birthplace: Los Angeles, California
Occupations: Actor, Writer, Musician
Quote: "It's probably fair to say I have [taken myself too seriously] on some jobs. I'm sure I'm more guilty of being difficult than I'd like to remember. I don't regret my desires; I've regretted the way I...communicate[d] my desires. Maybe I've lost a job because of some rumor. I doubt it. But nobody good...I've worked with has ever said anything negative about me, because we've never had a negative experience. By 'good', I mean directors who do their homework...are passionate, crazy, never sleep, and do like I do and just go after it." -- Premiere magazine, April 1997
Claim to Fame: Played Jim Morrison in Oliver Stone's The Doors
Significant Other(s):
Mare Winningham: actress, had a three-year relationship during high school
Cher: actress, singer; dated briefly in 1980s
Ellen Barkin: dated in 1984
Michelle Pfeiffer: wrote poetry for her, remembering her in his book of poetry, My Eden After Burns
Wife: Joanne Whalley (aka Joanne Whalley-Kilmer), actress; British; appeared together in Willow (1988); married February 1988; announced separation shortly after the birth of their second child; filed for divorce July 21, 1995
Drew Barrymore: actress; reportedly dated in 1995
Cindy Crawford: model; dated in 1996
Jaycee Gossett: businesswoman; dating as of late 1998
Family:
Grandmother: Cherokee heritage
Father: Eugene Kilmer, aerospace equipment distributor, real estate developer; divorced from Kilmer's mother in 1968; died in 1993
Mother: Gladys Kilmer
Brother: Wesley; drowned during an epileptic fit in the family swimming pool when he was 15; born in 1962
Brother: Mark, Mental health worker; estranged from Kilmer since their father's funeral
Daughter: Mercedes; born October 29, 1991 in Santa Fe, New Mexico; mother, Joanne Whalley
Son: Jack; born June 1995; mother, Joanne Whalley
Cousin: Joyce Kilmer, poet
Factoids:
Grew up on a ranch once owned by Roy Rogers in Chatsworth, California; used to visit the hippies at the neighboring Spahn ranch, home to Charles Manson Named one of People magazine's 10 worst dressed (September 20, 1999)
Education:
Hollywood Professional School, Hollywood,California The Juilliard School, New York, New York (majored in drama); at age 17, he was the youngest student accepted to the drama division