Salomes Story

I was a junior in high school when I met my boyfriend, Justin. We went to high school together and never really took notice in eachother until shortly after ending a relationship I had been in for the past two years. At that time I didn't want to meet anyone new, it was time for me to learn who I was. But fate had other plans for me.

My relationship with Justin began as nothing more than a casual friendship. We talked in the halls, we'd see eachother at friends parties, I thought he was sweet. Then one day we found ourselves alone together and we started talking and there was that connection, and for anyone who has ever found someone they have that connection with, you'll know what I'm talking about! We were both staying after school and he offered me a ride home and I accepted, we talked the whole ride, I kept wishing it could be longer. That's how it started. Simple as that. He was just a sweet guy, someone really worth my time, a good friend, but things were happening between us, I felt something for him I'd never noticed before.

Exactly one week after that, April 20, 1998, I came into school and on my locker was a small note. My twin sister was smiling and left saying, "I don't know anything!" I stood there, feeling my face blush, and opened the note and read. I already knew who it was from, Justin, and he told me first, I have had the best 3 days with you, thanks. Then he said he had always thought I was the most beautiful girl he had ever seen, from the first time he saw me, freshman year...that he waited for so long to ask me...if I would be his. I stood there in shock, no one had ever said anything so kind and thoughtful, I wanted to cry. We had 4 minutes until homeroom and I couldn't find him anywhere, I was asking everyone until suddenly I saw him and he had this "uh-oh" look and then I nodded and said, "my answer is YES." He hugged me and said, thank you! It was one of the most wonderful moments in my life, he really was a dream come true, and I felt like the most beautiful girl in the world...and the luckiest!

How I Became A Teen Mom

I never expected it could happen to me, those are words I say all too often. Justin and I had a normal high school relationship, we were together almost everyday, went to movies together, went over eachothers houses, enjoyed eachothers company, and I loved him, and he loved me, it was a wonderful feeling. We decided that having sex was only the next step and it was something we wanted to share with eachother. We were both virgins so this was a big deal and it was going to be special. But we were going to be responsible about it. I went to a doctor and found a birth control that worked best for me, it wasn't hard, just take the pill everyday and use condoms too "just in case". I felt like it was a good decision, I felt mature, and felt like everything would be perfect. That was August 1998, 4 months into our relstionship.

Months went on, sex became part of our relstionship now, not the most important but we felt comfortable with eachother and felt very confident that there would be no unplanned babies. Then in December 1998, I missed my period. I was scared. I remember talking to my closest friend, Tina, telling her that the birth control made my periods right on the button and that there was NO WAY I was pregnant, I always took birth control, sure we hadn't used a condom once or twice but that's why we had the birth control, it was my senior year, things like this didn't happen to me!

At least I didn't think they did. I came from a normal family, I had a normal boyfriend, I was NOTHING like the other teens in my school who had babies. But after receiving a positive pregnancy test, I knew otherwise. It could happen to anyone, as long as you're having sex, even safe sex, it can happen. The only way to not let it happen is not have sex at all, which sometimes isn't as easy as they say it is. I loved Justin, that's why I did it, sometimes I used to wish he hadn't been so wonderful.....then nothing would change and I could still be a teen.

Telling Justin wasn't easy either. I avoided him for 3 days!! Which was a task considering the fact that for the past few months we had been together just about everyday, so of course he knew something was wrong. He came over one day after school and I just told him. He stood there in shock for what seemed like hours and then limply hugged me and held me. I felt so in shock, I wasn't ready to be a mom, I had so many plans, Justin had so many plans, and in the next few months we would have to sacrifice many dreams, it wouldn't be easy. Our parents were disappointed, the cried, they knew how hard it would be for us, they didn't want us to keep this still unknown little baby. Justin and I sat down and discussed all our options. I considered abortion, but knew it wasn't a decision I could live with. Justin and I came from good families, money wasn't an issue, and I felt abortion would be a selfish decision. Adoption was out of the question. There was no way I could carry a child for 9 months and then give it away to strangers. With that we decided we were gonna have a baby and be parents. It wouldn't be easy.

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