Quotes to live by:
1. Don't think in terms of forever. Think of now and forever will take care of itself.
2.Expect to invest a great deal of time and energy in your relationships. Lasting relationships don't
just happen, they are created.
3.Recognize that not all relationships can be forever. Recognize their temporary quality, but,
continue to act as if they are permanent.
4.Respect the other persons relationships apart from you. If they are important to the one you care
about, they should be important to you.
5.Never idealize others, they will never live up to your expectations.
6.Take your time.
7.Remove price tags from people. Everyone has worth; the excitement lies in the discovery of their
value.
8.Don't be afraid of giving. You can never give too much, if you're giving willingly.
9.Don't feel as if you are required to spend your every waking hour with those you love. Move
aside from time to time and allow them a seperate space too.
10.Never force anyone to do anything for you "in the name of love". Love is not
bargained for.
11.Don't be afraid.
12.Don't over analyze your relationships.
13.Realize that you ALWAYS have choices...It's up to you.
14.Remember that a relationship is a pooling of resources. That means that with each relationship,
you are not only giving, you are becoming more.
15.Don't allow experience to harden your heart; rather use it to become more aware and sensitive.
16.Don't smother each other. No one can grow in the shade.
17.Don't ever lose touch with the craziness in you.
18.Don't waste time- you don't have forever.
19.Always start a relationship by asking; Do I have ulterior motives for wanting to relate to this
person? Is my caring conditional? Am I trying to escape something? Am I planning to change
this person? Do I need this person to help make up for a deficiency in myself? If you answer YES
to any of these questions...Leave the person alone. He or she is better off without you.
20.There are times when you may want to give up on a relationship, but, never give up on relating.
21.See people as good and beautiful, even when they seem to be trying hard not to appear so.
22.If you take time to talk together each day, you'll never become strangers.
23.Divorce, fighting and arguing will never solve your problems; better to try understanding, warmth
and flexibility.
24.Value yourself. The only people who appreciate a door mat are those with dirty shoes.
25.Before you form a relationship, ask yourself if there are things about the other that you can't stand
If there are, ask yourself if you would be able to live with these things forever. If the answer is
NO, then leave it alone.
26.Write down all the reasons why you love each person you relate with. Then, when the going gets
tough, take the list out and reread it. It resolves problems fast.
27.Don't make the other's problems yours. It only makes solving it twice as hard.
28.Don't be afraid of disagreements and arguments, the only people who don't argue are dead or
just don't care. In fact, never have a short argument, make certain they are over and thoroughly
done with.
29.After an argument is over with, forget it.
30.Learn to bend, it's better than breaking.
31.Don't take yourself so seriously, but, never fail to take the other person seriously.
32.Watch out for little irritations, they grow into destructive monsters. Verbalize them at once.
33.Let go of pride. It is usually false,creates barriers and prevents closeness.
34.Exercise feelings. Feelings have meaning only as they are expressed in action.
35.Learn to listen. You don't learn anything from hearing yourself talk.
36.Expect what is reasonable, not what is perfect.
37.If each partner in a relationship is willing to give 75% of him or her self, then you will have 50%
more than what you ned for a perfect relationship.
38.Always remember that relationships are not always 50-50. Most of the time it will flip flop 70-30 or
even 90-10. You will each have your high and low points.
39.Don't allow anyone to put you on a pedestal. It's too easy to fall off.
40.What a great feeling to have a relationship with someone who is loved not only by you, but, by
many. That means you've made a good choice. (Don't be jealous).
41.The creating of something worthwhile takes patience and energy.
42.What you learn about yourself will infinitely help in trying to understand others.
43.See problems as small miracles which can bring about knowledge and change.
44.*****You are the center of your relationships, therefore, you are responsible for your self esteem,
growth, happiness and fulfillment. Don't expect the other person to bring these things to you.
You must live as if you are alone and others are the gifts offered to help you enrich your life.
What is a loving relationship?
A loving relationship is one which offers comfort in the silent presence of another with whom you know through words or body language, you share mutual trust, honesty, admiration, devotion, and that special thrill of happiness
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