Looking Down On
Since the first time my boyfriend and I have had sex, people have
started to look down on me, such as my friends, counselors at school, a
friend of my parent's kid that lives with us, and even my his friends
that he told, things get around fast in the small town that I live in so
soon enough my mom found out immediately put me on the pill, and my dad
is so ashamed of me, but i really know that it was my decision that i
did it, and my BF and I have talked about it over and over again and we
think if we really trust each other and think we love eachother does'nt
that mean that we should be able to do what a mature couple should be
able to do? and how do I get the people that know about this to be more
mature, and stop telling me that have done an evil thing or something?
Have I done something wrong? Will I regret this in the future?
ADVISOR REPLIES:
You have not done something wrong if deep in your heart it feels right
to you. And also if you always practice safe sex, which is another part
of being mature enough to have sex. If you feel that what you did was
right then it really shouldn't matter what others think of you. I know
you want to save your reputation, so explain to the ones you care about
that it was your own choice and that you love your boyfriend very much.
Ask them to respect your decision and you. All of the people who talk
bad about you for it must not have a life, because if they did they
wouldn't be so worried about what's going on in yours. Most likely, if
you truly love this guy you won't regret it in the future. Good luck!-Lisa
I think you have to come to terms with reality! YOU ARE ONLY 13! That is the majority of the reason as to why people are "looking down on you." You have to understand that you are not the mature couple in that hypothetical situation that you mentioned. You can't make people believe that what you did is not something evil or wrong because obviously they have different view points on sex than you do. You said that it is your decision about having sex but you still are a minor so actually it isn't at all your decision. We're talking about morals and standards here and I really think that you need to develop them. Build guidelines for yourself to live by. I think you need to get your life back on track and stop having sex. Best of luck.
Modern Teen Advisor,
~*Em*~
I know that you probably aren't looking for this kind of answer, but I
have to say it. You are so very young. Sex is such a serious matter
and it is so complicated. I know you feel like you are mature like
adults, but believe me you have a long way to go. That's why sex is
supposed to be saved for marriage. You think the people who look down
on you are being irrational, but they are not. They are just looking
for your own well being. I can't tell you to not have sex with your
boyfriend, but I can tell you to think really hard about your decisions.
Take apart exactly why you feel like you need to have se and if deep
down the only answer is because it is right, then be very careful.
Other than that, maybe you should rethink becoming sexually active at
such a young age. I'm only telling you this with your best interests is
mind. May you make the right decision for yourself.
All my heart,-
Erin
Heck yeah you'll regret it in the future! You could be pregnant right now! I hope you've gone to the doctor! You both could have STDs! You are 13 and I doubt that you really love this guy you're with. I don't know what your beliefs are but I hope you get yourself straight before you ruin your life. ~Becca
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