Problems W/ Dad
I was dating a girl last summer and sometimes in the
mornings her parents wouldn't be home and I'd go over to her house so
we could be alone for a little while.
One day while I was there her dad came home and walked in the room and
she was naked. Obviously he wasn't happy about that, and he kicked me
out and told us we can't talk anymore etc. We broke up but kept
talking on the phone and lately we've been talking a lot more and
we've been talking about trying to get back together.
I was going to talk to her dad about me and her seeing each other
again (this was almost a YEAR ago) but before I got a chance to, her
dad asked her why we've been talking so much lately and said that
"We've had our chance"...Now I don't know what to do. I REALLY like
this girl a lot. I'm willing to do anything to be able to see her
again, so no idea is too small.
ADVISOR REPLIES:You have no choice but to respect this girl's dad's wishes. True, this may be hard for you but, honestly, for a dad to come home one day and see is little girl, naked, with a guy he thinks he can trust is quite traumatizing! Give him a little more time and then maybe talk to him about how you've matured (I hope you use better sense next time and HAVE matured.) If her dad is still against the idea of you coming back into the picture, then you really do have to move on with your life and keep your relationship with this girl just as friends. Good luck.
Modern Teen Advisor,-
Em
Yikes! Well, try to talk to your ex's dad, and tell him to LISTEN to
you...it's rude and inconsiderate if he doesn't. If you get the
oppurtunity to talk with the 'dad', include the word privacy and how he
abused it. He wouldn't of seen his daughter nude if he would've knocked,
or respected her privacy. I mean, what kind of dad would just WALK INTO
his daughter's room without knocking? Talk to the 'dad' about how much
his daughter means to you, and you would NEVER do anything to hurt
her...ever. Ask him for another chance, because you didn't know when
your 2nd chance was, and that this time, you'll earn his respect
back...but it's not only the 'dad's job, you've gotta pitch in too.
Never really go over to your 'girls's house when she's alone, or do
anything to do with DEEP intamacy when he's not around, just yet. I'm
sure you'll earn his respect back with time, and effort...GOOD LUCK
~***ALL THE BEST**~-Stef
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