For all of you who have lost a baby, I know that Mother's Day will be difficult for you to get through. Please know that you're not alone. I know that many times it feels like I'm totally alone, and I know that many of you feel the same way at times. The fact is, there are many people who have lost their children, and Mother's Day will be very difficult for all of them, too.
Believe me, I'd rather not go to the cemetery on Sunday. Instead, I'd rather be visiting my mom, with my baby. Unfortunately, that's not going to happen. It seems so unfair that God has taken any children, but He has some reason for doing it (although, I'm not sure what that reason is).
Whether my child died before or after he was born is irrelevant. I'm still his mother, and nobody can take that away from me. J.J. is very real. His body still exists on earth, in the cemetery, and he exists in Heaven.
For all of you who have lost a child of any age, you and I will find the strength to make it through Mother's Day (and every other day). Take care, and remember -- we all have very special angels watching over us!
Heather
May 4, 1998
