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The wisdom of this page is expressed by
There are several factors that go into play
in the making
of a player:
The attractiveness of the
Mack
The weapon of insecurity
Challenge
Passion
Dazzle
The Nursing Need
In Conclusion
Now this page represents a great achievement
in my
research. We've all have wondered how these
"playas" and
"playettes" are so successful. And why do
nice guys and
girls have it rough. Believe me, there is a
science to it
all. And it's not as complicated as you may
think. But
there is a lot to explain.
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Confidence
Greed
Insensitivity
Passion
Selfishness
Insecurity
Ofcourse players are attractive. But for
several reasons.
It really has nothing to do with looks even
though it may
be a plus. But ANYONE has the ability to
become a player.
Players are confident. And that's VERY
attractive.
Confident in themselves and not seeking
approval from
others. And in turn, that may cause others to
start
seeking approval from them!
This is where it all begins.
You've read right. Players use insecurity as
a weapon to
control their relationships. The root source
of insecurity
begins from the high social value of the
player. The
player really doesn't truly have high social
value. It is
all nothing but perception.
The more people who are fond of the player,
the higher the
social value of the player.
(Example.....a man who
have several female admirers)
This may explain why for example, so many
women seek after
and cling onto a man who clearly have several
other female
prospects.
The player being a challenge to "bag" is a
driving force
for it's success. And a player with many
admirers can be
viewed upon as a challenge for any person.
Human beings
love to win. So therefore being the
celebrated one to
finally "tame" the player's social ways
really seems like
a desireable goal.
But the problem is, the player doesn't want
to be "tamed"
into a monogamous relationship. Because once
that happens,
the player will feel less in control and
insecure. The
supply of prospects is security for the
player.
Like an old saying goes:"Always keep a spare
tire"
The less available the player seems, the more
valuable
he/she is socially.
So naturally, the player will most likely
continue to have
a generous supply of prospects since its
social value will
continue
stay high due to its current prospects and
the "potential
bidders". It's a self-fulfilling prophecy.
One hand washes
the other.
This is also a big contributor to the
player's
attractiveness. Every player has a passion of
some
sort.
(example: cars, friends, prospects,
career,
music, etc..)
And since it's a passion, it would be a
significant part
of the player's life. Now.... this would once
again evoke
some insecurity on the "investor's" part.
He/she will then
wonder about how significant he/she truly is
to the
player. This starts "approval seeking" and
clingyness.
The "investor" usually tries to then turn the
player's
passion onto him/her. By doing so will be a
validation to
the "investor" that he/she is truly
significant to the
player's life. He/she will then feel
important in final.
Oooohhhh....."dazzle" is what makes players
so much fun to
be with. A "dazzle" could be anything. A
strong
personality, an impulsive character trait, a
fancy car,
very good looks, sharp wit, lots of money,
social status,
etc. It is something that is particularily
attractive
about the player. But mainly it is nothing
more than a
very effective lure. A "dazzle" is often a
player's
passion as mentioned above. "Dazzles" are
usually
practised and maintained by the player to
either maintain
or augment his/her social value.
This is a very common ploy. How many times
have you seen
someone stay with another person who abuses
them, uses
drugs, cheats on them, lie to them, or even
disrespects
the "investor's" family? WE ALL HAVE! And why
do they get
away with it? It's "The Nursing Need"!
The Nursing Need is based upon insecurity.
The "investor"
wants to feel needed. He/she wants to feel
significant to
the player's life. He/she wants to make
him/her "better".
It's as if they're taking on a life-long
project. And in
many cases, they are.
It's not very hard to understand the
"investor's" Nursing
Need. Would you feel very secure in a
relationship if your
partner was doing better than you or don't
need anything
from you? Most of us wouldn't. So the
"investor" then
chooses a "wounded bird" for them to
"nurse".
But far too often the "investor" isn't
observant enough to
abandon the "project" and stays with the
player in hopes
things will be rosier in the near future. The
rockier the
road gets, the more needed the "investor"
feels. Once
again, this is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
One hand washes
the other.
This is a player's haven. The player usually
has almost
total control of the relationship by playing
the "wounded
bird".
Being a player really means living selfishly
and
shallowly. It's all for self with no room for
any others.
This doesn't sound very healthy. It abandons
all honesty.
And since honesty is a solid support of all
relationships,
everything is doomed from the beginning.
"Playing" may be fun. It may be a LOT of fun.
But
spiritual destruction is the inevitable
consequence.
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