What if Your Friend Told You That They are Homosexual?
This is a situation that has happened to me recently, a good
friend of mine told me that she was bisexual. I reacted with an "as if"
kind of attitude, I would have never thought that she was. There are
too many stereotypes of gay/bi/les people, they do not all act the
same way. After I believed her, I felt uncomfortable around her at the
start, I thought to myself, "is she checking me out?" "does she like
me in that way?". After a while, I didn't feel quite as uncomfortable
around her anymore. I realized that I could control my own emotions
and that I was definitely not that way, so even if she did feel that way
about me I would just have to forget it. I wasn't going to go out with
her in that way at all, so if she did like me in that way, nothing would
come of it anyway. Now, I am still good friends with her because I
would never want to lose her as a friend. I don't think about her being
bisexual as much when she's around me as I used to, I occasionally
feel uncomfortable around her still, but in general I understand and it
doesn't bother me. So what advice do I have for people who are gay
and are thinking about telling them that they're gay? If you trust them
enough, tell them. If a friend tells you that they are gay/bi/les? You
may feel the same way I did at the start, but then realize that it is
not
that big of a deal and forget about it! It is not that important, you
are
friends and that's all that matters. Would you want to lose a friend
over them telling you that they are gay? I don't think so! Also, if
they
trust you enough to tell you that, then you must be very good friends.
A good friend is not something that you want to lose!
by Nicole
Email: cisco1@telenet.net