Secrets

Telling your friends, boyfriend,or your girlfriend secrets can relieve a lot of stress if they are serious secrets such as, should you tell your boyfriend if you have been abused or raped? Your friends, boyfriend, or girlfriend can also help you to solve some situations or give you advice, for example, maybe he thinks that you should see a counselor or he knows of a good book on the topic for you to read which might help. If you are currently being abused, they could know of some ways for you to get help, maybe they know the number for a really good crisis line or maybe they know the name of a really good counselor. The question is: how do you know that they will keep your secret safe? Ask yourself, do I trust him/her? If the answer is no, then you should find someone else to confide in, such as a teacher, or a relative. If the answer is a definite yes, then you really trust him/her to keep your secret and therefor your secret is most likely safe. If the answer is maybe, here is a really good idea: how about telling them a minor secret, such as the most embarassing moment you've ever had or who you have a crush on and tell them not to tell anyone. If they keep the minor secret, then you know that you can most likely trust them with a major secret. If they don't, tell someone else who you trust your secret. Remember, if your friend or boyfriend doesn't keep your major secret, it is possible that it is for your own good. If you are anorexic or bulimic or endangering your life, and they tell someone, it is most likely to get you help. It is to your benefit if they tell someone that you are in a dangerous situation. This is a situation that has happened to me, one of my friends told me a secret (I can't say what it is, because it is a secret) and I kept it. It did not put him in danger, so there was no need to tell anyone, it also relieved a lot of his stress. So if you feel that you can trust someone, tell them your secrets and it may turn out to be the best thing you ever did for yourself! by Nicole