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Question Fifty: Where does the issue of “fairness” come in? Why should I wait, deny myself and suffer if I am not the one who has broken the marriage contract? It’s just not fair.

Answer: Your right in some respects. Life may not be fair - this side of eternity. If life was “fair” then there would be no need for any kind of Judgment at the end of the world for there would be no unfairness (or evil) to judge.

The issue of fairness has caused believers to question God and His justice (Psalm). If you read the Psalm you will find that the Psalmist almost stumbled in His faith over the issue. It was only when he saw the true destiny of the individual involved (i.e. Hell) that he stoped his wondering.

The thing is this... When a spouse leaves a marriage covenant - particular a believing spouse - there is a very real possibility that their eternal destiny is in Question. In other words we should be concerned that - since people do indeed go to Hell over the issue of Adultery (Rev ) - we should be concerned that our spouse may indeed be... well, at the very least, not in God’s good graces. Therefore, since this is true, we should not be thinking about our situation so much as focusing in on the situation that our spouse is in and praying for them. You see prayer changes things...

Now regarding the other things you’ve mentioned...waiting, denying yourself and suffering let me say this, isn’t that what Christianity is all about? Suffering, waiting in hope, denying oneself, picking up ones cross and following Jesus? Peter / James says dont be amazed when you encounter various trials. STOP RIGHT THERE! Did you hear him Don’t be amazed (like the Psalmist). Don’t start questioning the issues of fairness. Don’t wonder about your suffering (1 Peter, James). DON’T WONDER ABOUT THE ISSUE OF PATIENCE EITHER (1 Peter 1:2,3)...

Also there is the issue of redemptive suffering, a suffering in a patient way that has an effect on the one that is causing the suffering (1 Peter wife won over without a word...)

KJV "for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content" (Philippians 4:11).










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