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Question Thirty: I disagree with you totally. The book of Hebrews is a perfect example of what happens to people when they willfully sin in breaking a covenant. My Christian spouse knew what they were doing and was warned many times by me and others yet they still broke our marriage covenant. To me my spouse - who has, by the way remarried - is no longer my spouse, they have broken our marriage covenant and so, like God in the book of Hebrews, I reject my spouse. They have sinned beyond repentance! .

Answer: Careful! Be very careful! I know what you are saying here, but you are not God therefore who are you to judge? In reference to the book of Hebrews remember that in Hebrews 6 you need to be a full blown, very mature Christian to commit that unpardonable sin and if your spouse has indeed committed that sin in your opinion ( which is a sin unto death according to 1 John), and your spouse is STILL alive, then even though they are in an unrepentant state (in this case remarried), they have in fact NOT committed this sin unto death because they are indeed still very much alive! As long as a person is alive there is hope. Your spouse is most likely backsliden and needs to repent. The verses in Hebrews cannot be separated from the verses in 1 John and the things that Jesus says regarding the unpardonable sin.

Remember, the Bible warns us constantly to be very careful in judging situations. In fact we probably should not judge at all. As long as a person is still alive, in my opinion, there is still hope for repentance. Remember covenants can be broken but cannot be ended unless a person dies. Even though your spouse is “dead” to you emotionally they are still your spouse and God is moving on your behalf to rectify the situation.

Also remember David’s relationship with Saul. Saul did nothing but torment David and even tried to kill him. But David would not harm Saul even when it was in his power to do so. Davids relationship (covenant?) with God’s anointed (Saul) was precious to him even though Saul did not consider it so. David was not going to ‘move on’ until there was no hope for Saul AND GOD TOOK HIM. To David, Saul was God’s anointed to acheive God’s purposes in the earth and in his life, just as your spouse is your anointed ( you need to reorient your thinking).

I guess my question to you is this, is there a lesson in the story of Davids relationship with Saul for you? Saul threw spears at David. Did you know that God ordains people to throw spears at us? Even people we are close to? How do you react when this happens? Do you pick them up to throw them back or are you a peacemaker who turns the other cheek? Remember the story of David is not so much a story of David and Goliath but mostly a story of David and the person he was in relationship with - Saul. There are a lot of lessons in those stories for us today.

REMEMBER, God sees EVERYTHING and He hears EVERYTHING too. Keep on praying for your spouse (for they are still your spouse in the eyes of God). Granted this remarriage is a pretty big spear that your spouse has thrown at you, but David had the very same thing happen to him and yet he was able to reclaim his wife, so there is hope!

Also remember the fact that you spouse is still alive may show that you have misjudged the situation. The majority of 2nd marriages do not last. Statistics back this up. Be hopeful. God is on your side. He does not make mistakes.


And Remember...

Dont’ Judge and...

Watch over your own soul




”My brethren, if any among you strays from the truth and one turns him back, let him know that he who turns a sinner from the error of his ways will save his soul from death, and will cover a multitude of sins.” James 5:19,20


“The Pharisee stood and was praying thus to himself, ‘God I thank Thee that I am not like other people: swindlers, unjust, adulterers...” Luke 18:13


“Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall” 1 Corinthians 10:12


Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before stumbling” Proverbs 16:18


You therefore, beloved, knowing this beforehand, be on your guard lest, being carried away by the error of unprincipled men, you fall from your own steadfastness,” 2 Peter 3:17











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