Question Twelve: I got saved, married
an
unbeliever and have since found out that what I did was wrong. I want to repent. If
a
person who married an unqualified Christian spouse is in a state of sin (adultery), and
they should in fact leave, shouldn’t I then leave my unqualified spouse?
Question Thirteen: Hey! How about
some resources to help me though whatever?
Question Fourteen: What’s the deal with
the Roman Catholic Church on divorce and remarriage? Why are they so dead set
against it?
Question Fifteen: Both my spouse and I
are on our second marriages. The reason for my divorce was because my unbelieving
spouse left me. However the reason for my current spouses divorce was on the grounds
of adultery. (but both the spouses were Christian). Is our marriage legitimate?
Question Sixteen: I still do not
understand the concept of a marriage which is “under the law.”
Question Seventeen: From what I’ve read
so far my marriage is one that is the product of a hard heart toward a previous spouse
and I now see that I am UNDER the law too. You’re right, I do keep saying “well, the law
of Moses says this on the subject” or Jesus (whom I now see as speaking to people under
the law) I find myself saying “Jesus said this or that on the subject”. Why did God allow
me to go ahead and marry my spouse. We’ve been married many years and have children
and I love my spouse deeply. What am I to do?
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Question Eighteen: Am I going to hell if
I chose to remain in my heard hearted Covenant?
Question Nineteen: I’m a Christian and
my Christian spouse has committed multiple adulteries over many years and refuses to
repent. I truly wonder if they were ever saved. Anyway, I worry about my health (STD’s)
and my spouses health. My spouse is always moving in and out of our house to live with
such and such. I’m tired of it. There is no lasting kind of repentance. According to what
you said I can divorce - on the grounds of adultery -
according to the law, and remarry and not be guilty of adultery myself. I’m planing on
doing that even though my marriage will be under the law.
Question Twenty: I’m sorry, I disagree
with you totally. My spouse, although alive is in fact dead to me because of what they
did. Under the Old Covenant the betrayer was suppose to be put to death if they cheated
- in part - so the offended spouse could get remarried again. (Covenants are good until
death, so that’s why they were put to death) Well, even though my spouse is still alive,
they died in my heart and as a Christian I know Jesus has forgiven them, yet my hurt
heart still feels the same as a person under the old covenant did, and I want out. My
spouse
although alive is in fact dead to me.
Question Twenty One: What do you
mean by not being guilty of adultery - technically - if one divorces
under the
Law?
Question Twenty Two: Why did God
allow this to happen to me and my believing spouse?
Question Twenty Three: I talked to my
Pastor and he said that since we are disciples of Jesus we should do the things He said.
My Christian spouse has committed adultery and has not repented to my satisfaction.
Jesus gave me permission to leave (Matthew 5:32) so I’m taking that “out”. Do you think
I
am
correct?
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Twenty Four: I’m a Pastor and
my wife has ‘passed on’. Someday I may decide to get remarried, I don’t know, it
depends, anyway... if I do in fact decide to remarry will my marriage disqualify me from
my office of
Pastor?
Question Twenty Five: I’m a Pastor /
Deacon who
has married a divorced / widowed woman. Should I stay in office?
Question Twenty Six: What happens to
me if I divorce and remarry according to Jesus words about getting divorced and
remarried on account of adultery?
Question Twenty Seven: You talk about
interpreting scripture according to the times the author lived in. Can’t we throw out a lot
of controversial things Paul said and chalk them up to the culture of his times?
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Question Twenty Eight:What do you
mean by unclean or unsanctified children?
Question Twenty Nine: What do you
mean by “more is expected form us” who live - not under the old covenant - but under
the new?
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Thirty: I disagree with you
totally. The book of Hebrews is a perfect example of what happens to people when they
willfully sin in breaking a covenant. My Christian spouse knew what they were doing and
was warned many times by me and others yet they still broke our marriage covenant. To
me my spouse - who has, by the way remarried - is no longer my spouse, they have
broken our marriage covenant and so, like God in the book of Hebrews, I reject my
spouse. They have sinned beyond repentance!
Question Thirty One: I know I have a
new heart under the new covenant, but I want my old hard heart back. I really don’t like
this heart of flesh I like my old heart of stone.
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Question Thirty Two: What kind of
sheets does a baker use on his bed?
Question Thirty Three: What about
“shunning”. Paul does talk about it.
Question Thirty Four: Can
Christian’s make legitimate “hard hearted” covenants under the New Covenant?
Question Thirty Five: What are children
of divorced and remarried Christians suppose to think of Christianity?
Question Thirty Six: I really resent you
calling me a hypocrite. Maybe I misheard God when He told me to get remarried. Maybe
I misunderstood the scriptures too. I don’t know, but do know I’m not a hypocrite.
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Question Thirty Seven: Personally, I
think you are playing games here. Jesus to me is adding something to the law that was
not stated by Moses or God. Jesus is being a little more charitable than Moses / God and
in fact adding a new condition and state for a marriages disolvemant (i.e. Divorce).
In other words, the only reason Jesus permits divorce is for adultery and the
reason He permits it is because we are to be merciful to people and not stone them
anymore. . In regards to what Paul says in 1 Cor 7:11,12 I balance that off with
what Jesus said in Matthew 19:9 and come up with the new
covenant / Christian doctrine that Christians should not divorce their spouse except for
adultery, So...
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Question Thirty Eight: I still don’t
understand what you mean by “Mercy under the law”?
Question Thirty Nine:
I believe the Holy Spirit came in power to show us “showie manifestations”. I don’t
believe He came in power to help me resist sin, straighten out my mind and emotions or
anything else. I’m here to be a spectator and enjoy the show! I want to see see and see,
hear hear and hear, feel feel and feel. I want to...
Question Forty: If a Christian divorces
and remarries can’t that be considered the end of the matter? So what if they committed
adultery in remarrying, they are remarried and the Jesus says adultery is grounds for
divorce. Therefore the marriage is legit! Why not leave well enough alone?
Question Forty One: What do you mean
by Christian’s having a New Nature?
Question Forty Two: What do you mean
by more mercy under the New Covenant.
Question Forty Three:
Question Forty Four: I’m confused. I
thought Christians were never to get divorced yet you talk about it. God hates divorce
what gives?
Question Forty Five: Every time I read 1
Corinthians chapter 7 my head spins and I hear voices that say “peanut butter, peanut
butter.” When I hear “the voices” I go out into the kitchen and make a sandwich - which
helps my stomach, but doesn’t help my head. What’s going on?
Question Forty Six: I’m a Pastor who has
divorced my Christian spouse, but neither on of us has remarried. Should I resign?
Question Forty Seven: I’m a Pastor
whose wife has committed Adultery. Should I resign ?
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Question Forty Eight: MT
5 Grace
Question Forty Nine: What is the New
Nature For? Feeling Good or Conquering?
Question
Fifty: Where does the issue of
“fairness” come in? Why should I wait, deny myself and suffer if I am not the one who
has broken the marriage contract? It’s just not fair.”
Question Fifty One: What does Jesus
mean by ‘and whoever marries her is guilty of adultery?
Question Fifty Two: I’m planing
on leaving (not divorcing) my Christian spouse. I tell all my problems to a person of the
opposite sex at church
with an understanding heart. (Even personal things about my spouse). Am I right in
doing this?
Question Fifty Three: I divorced my
Christian husband for “irreconcilable difference” Did I do the right thing? My “magic
eight ball” said I did.
Question Fifty Four: My spouse feels
DEAD to me because she/he cheated on me. Since she is DEAD to me then the covenant
can be broken for a DEATH has occurred.
Question Fifty Five: God cheated.. He
went to the Gentiles!
Question Fifty Six: Why is it that elders
get “off the hook” for sinning (i.e. they don’t have to resign, 1 Tim 5:20), but when I
sinned by remarrying I can’t be qualified for the office of elder.
Question Fifty Seven: Unbelievers and
covenants
Question Fifty Eight: 1 Cor 7 not seeing Paul as
granting
permission for remarriage.
Question Fifty Nine: How is it fair to my Pastor
that he cannot not
remarry after his wife died?
Question Sixty I’m married and I’m
planing on leaving my spouse because I just found my “soul-mate.” We have everything
in common including being married. Marriage is more than just taking vows, etc, etc,
etc,.
Question Sixty One
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